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writes:Is my marriage over? Please help!I have been married for ten years to my husband. The problem is, I feel so unloved and unhappy. He says very cruel things to me, and acts as though he doesn't care for me at all. I go to college full time, substitute teach part time, not to mention homeschool our three children and cook,clean,etc. He says he is so mean to me because I need to get off my lazy a** and get a full time job to help with bills. When I tell him I am unhappy, he says I can leave whenever I want, but the kids will want to come live with him eventually because he makes more money. I am so lost, unhappy, and lonely. I don't want my children to be upset by a divorce. I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): you poor woman! i cant even imagine how you must feel. if youre really feeling that bad about things, then talk with him. tell him that hes making you feel bad and if that doesnt work, go to marriage counseling, or if you can tell that this is going nowhere then boot his sorry ass all the way down to divorce court. or humiliate him by putting him on dr phil. or something. i really feel for you. and seriously consider the dr phil thing, because he makes everything better. =D
-elise, age 12
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU HAVE KIDS OR IF YOUR 60 YRS OLD. I went back to school to become an MA ( medical assistant) becuse my husband can't earn a good living, I have struggled for the past 8 months working part time and going to school with 6-7 hrs a night homework well I made it and as soon as I am finished with my inter-ship this month I will be packing my bags and leaving. We are in the mist of loosing our house. We need to sell quick.
He is mean to me and to his 93 yr old mother. He calls us names. No matter how old you are never stay with person like that. This kind of relationship can make you physically and emotionally ill. Good luck to all of you who cant seem to make a dicision and Get OUT!!!
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reader, rachael123  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 2 days ago i left a situation very similar to yourself. my partner did not appreciate me, he put me down and called me names infront of our daughter. i had felt so down and unhappy for months and months. i had told him before i was leaving he would laugh at my face and told me just to go. so you know what i did! and you can to. you like me deserve so much better and you can get that. your children will always love you wether they live with you or your husband. as for upseting them with a messy divorce, do you not think you are doing that now by staying with such a controlling man? because you are. you and they will be so much happier if you go. please take it from me i know ive been there. dont get me wrong it isnt atol easy, and it will hurt so much, but just take one day at a time.i doesnt matter what you do with your time ( but by god you do so much you must be knackered!!!) he has no right to call you names. your kids will not go to him because he has more money and if they do they will soon come back beacause in there hearts they will know it is there mother who does everything for them. be strong get up when he is at work pack your stuff, get the kids and just go. dont look back. i garantee you in a few months time you will be a new women and eventually your children will love you for it. i hope this helps, rachael xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): Look at this logically. You know the amount you do and don't do so you know if you are lazy or not. You need to listen to yourself and be confident in your own opinion of yourself.
You say you do not want your children to go through a divorce. But you do want them to go through life hearing this man say horrid things to you and thinking this is the way men speak to women? Why not show them that you don't have to put up with things like this in life and give them the confidence to know their own self worth.
If you think things can be resolved then maybe counselling is the way forward but he has to be willing to give it a go too. If he isn't then there is no point.
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