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writes:My wife and i been marrried for 3 years. I love her with all my heart. We had problems but we got past them. This time shes being serious on being done and wants a divorce. We been seperated for 4 months now and she started seeing her ex boyfriend that she dated 3 or 4 times in the past. She started dating him 1 week after she kicked me out. Were still married. Does auldtry have a role in this matter? Whats the laws for auldtry in Indiana are? Do i have any cahances on getting her back in my life, with our kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never really told her about that but i cant get over her and i still love her with all my heart. She doesnt want to tell me what i did was wrong in our marriage. All she saying i did everything wrong. I didnt do everything, cause i never cheated and never abused her. So i dont know why she wont just tell me. Then, today she submitted the divorce papers, without paying for them. She has the money but didnt actually paid for them yet. Whats the difference in submitted and actually filing for a divorce and giving them money when you do. I think she is playing games with my mind. Thats just my guess. She doesnt even want to be friends with me for our son sake. What chances on me getting joint custody over my son and what is the outcome of it.
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reader, blindbetty +, writes (16 October 2010):
 I live in Ohio and just living apart is not being Legally separated. When you both sign your divorce papers that the lawyer draws up and files them with the court you are LEGALLY separated. Then you get a hearing date to make it official. Why would you want to go back if she kicked you out? You should visit a lawyer.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (16 October 2010):
 um i do know that in indiana if she getss pregnant while you guys are still married it will be your responsibility until a paternaty test is taken or you sign your rights off lol or atleast thats how it was 10 years ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): You need an attorney for legal advice. On a personal matter legal separated or not if she does loves you I wouldn't call it adultery. Just think if she letting you do her without caring fort you, what do you call that? Stay in your kids life, keep the dude away from your kids, but let her share her body with whomever she choose too. You may end up worst off if you try to stop her.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 I don+t think you shoould try to get her back by trying to say that what she is doing is illegal or adultery. On the opposite, that will just drive her further away. As for the adultery, in my opinion if you believe in marriage you dont get a divorce, and so when you are already having a divorce, what does it really matter if you are still considered married or not? If marriage was helt holy then theres wouldnt be a divorce in the first place.
Anyway, when it comes to techincalities, Im not sure how to place that. But I dont think any religion besides radical Islam considers adultry (for women) something to be punished for by law. In Afghanistan women can get stoned to death, or burned alive, shot... teh list goes on. But I dont think the laws in Indiana are anywhere NEAR that. In fact I dont think anyone would even bother with it. Adultery is, however hurtful, not a crime by law.
And like I said, in this case Im not even sure if you could call what she is doing adultery. I guess it is? But you should try and let it go, you cant control what she is doing.
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