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How can I stop hating myself because I forgive her?

Q.   Short and sweet. My best friend of 5 years and girlfriend of a year just up and left me. I found out she messed around with 5 other guys while she was with me. The only way I found out was one of the guys that she was messing with told me cuz he ...

A.   15 August 2014: its very healthy you were able to forgive her but it would be so unhealthhy if you took her back. once a cheater always a cheater! i predict she will just use you and break your heart.... (read in full...)

What should I do about my boyfriend talking with shady girls

Q.   My boyfriend has a history of cheating, not on me but on his one ex. Shortly after he moved schools (we dated for a year back in 9th grade but broke up when he moved) he started dating this girl and they had a very unhealthy relationship. They ended ...

A.   8 August 2014: i can almost guarantee you hes cheating! im sorry but you are gonna need to kick this guy to the curb and raise this baby alone most likely. once you get rid of him i suggest you dont take him back after he sweet talks you with empty promises.... (read in full...)

Our flatmates only growl at me when he's not there! I suffer from anxiety and depression so this is very difficult for me!

Q.   I don't know what to do. This year I moved from one city to another to live with my long distance boyfriend of 2 years. It's about six months on now. The move was really hard for me cos I'm shy and i left behind my close friends and the place I was ...

A.   30 July 2014: growl back!!! dont let then push you around...they do because you let them.... (read in full...)

What can I do? I have conflicting feelings about my relationship and it's scaring me.

Q.   Thanks very much for taking the time to read this. I've been struggling with my conflicting feelings about my relationship, and as time goes on and I grow more and more attached to my boyfriend, my feelings just conflict more and more. I used t...

A.   18 July 2014: maybe hes honestly a good guy...there are a few out there. have you tried talking to him about your past? it might help... (read in full...)

My partner and I get along brilliantly with my ex and his girlfriend but no one around us seems to understand. Is this situation really that weird?

Q.   I feel like I'm having an affair because nobody accepts this situation!! I was with a man for 8 years, we never married but we did have two children during this time. We split up for many reasons, the relationship was horrible for the last 2 years...

A.   17 July 2014: i think this is awesome! not only is this great for you but its great for the kids. i have a few friends who have this kind of relationships w/their xs... (read in full...)

She might be interested, how do I proceed when I am in the middle of cleaning up?

Q.   I volunteer at the humane Society for an hour or two. Cleaning up dog crap on the outside walking path. While I do this, I listen to my arm band radio and I start getting into the music and start singing. This woman heard me and kept smiling at me. ...

A.   5 July 2014: lol after you empty the crap into the trash put the shovel down and say hi... (read in full...)

My sister is attractive. I have low self esteem problems. How can I overcome these issues?

Q.   Hello I have suffered with low self esteem for years and need to get over it really! I have a sister who is beautiful, tall, slim and popular. My family always used to comment how she looked like a model and their faces would light up when sh...

A.   23 June 2014: i had this problem growing up too...i have 3 gorgeous popular sisters while i was fat and disabled growing up. everyone treated me the way you describe and i hated it...especially always getting the blame in arguments! well i finally did somethin... (read in full...)

I've become pregnant and BF and his family have ADHD/ADD running in it. Will my baby also have it?

Q.   I was dating a guy for nearly a year. He is a good person but he had ADHD and ADD, which was very stressful for me. It could no longer cope with it and it had to end. Let me explain, his condition is quite extreme. He had been diagnosed since he...

A.   27 January 2014: ps...IF your child does have behavioral issues another great source of support and knowledge is other parents. iv found alot of support when i went to parenting classes through wic and by researching online. be proactive...learn as much as you can ... (read in full...)

I've become pregnant and BF and his family have ADHD/ADD running in it. Will my baby also have it?

Q.   I was dating a guy for nearly a year. He is a good person but he had ADHD and ADD, which was very stressful for me. It could no longer cope with it and it had to end. Let me explain, his condition is quite extreme. He had been diagnosed since he...

A.   27 January 2014: first thing to do is take a deep breath and calm down! my xhusband-sperm donor- has alot of issues which i now suspect are related to undiagnosed aspergers. my son in turn has some major behavioral/development issues. over the years i had some ... (read in full...)

I still love this man. So be nice. But we've been separated 3 years. We have adult children. Yet he tells his Gfs that he can't divorce, due to our children. What's he playing at?

Q.   We've been separated for 3 years! He is telling his so called girlfriend he hasn't sought a divorce because of our kids. Our kids are adults!! I don't think he doesn't want to divorce me, I caught him cheating, I was devastated he begged...

A.   4 December 2013: there could be a few reasons for this...he might be too cheap to pay for one, he uses his status as a way to keep women from getting too attached, or the status gives him the elusion of cheating. who knows why he hasnt filed but he wont change his ... (read in full...)

I'm 70 years old struggling with erectile dysfunction and I feel terrible that I cannot satisfy my girlfriend sexually

Q.   Hello. I am 70 years old and active,however I have recently developed the old man's problem Erectile Dysfunction. I have been living with an East European lady whom I adore very much,for over a year now. Anyway with my problem,proper sex is no...

A.   2 December 2013:  i found this article...hope it helps...also try talking to your doctor http://www.sharecare.com/health/heart-disease/heart-disease-take-erectile-dysfunction-medication... (read in full...)

Is this man attracted to his daughter and possibly her friends?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for two years, we got engaged but his daughter had become jealous and wanted me out of there, so we are no longer engaged. He engages in alot of pornography, and while snooping I came across lots of fantasies about ...

A.   30 November 2013: i was in this situation sort of and it turns out my suspicions were true but to a much larger degree! i suggest reporting this to cps or to one of the girls counselors/drs. i also was in special ed and knew a few girls just like her.... (read in full...)

Should I sleep with my ex casually?

Q.   My Ex, who I have not seen in about 7 years, recently invited me over to have a drink. He asked me if I wanted to have sex. I was shocked as he married since our breakup but apparently is splitting up. I told him I was looking for a relationship, ...

A.   28 November 2013: youll be his go-to-girl!... (read in full...)

Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?

Q.   Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...

A.   26 November 2013: IMO id make as much noise as possible just to show him you wont be pushed around...but thats just me... (read in full...)

How can I get someone to return my things without making a scene?

Q.   I lent a friend (Nick) a DVD box set about 18 months ago. I then broke up with my boyfriend (it was awful) and I needed to go down the no contact route. This meant that I didn't see Nick nearly as much anymore because I was no longer going to the ...

A.   26 November 2013: Is it acceptable to bang on someone's door at 11pm (or 6am) and demand property back? I can't really think of what else I'm supposed to do without making some kind of scene...in this case YES!!!... (read in full...)

Three days ago I suffered a miscarriage. Do I tell my ex bf/good friend I miscarried his baby?

Q.   My ex boyfriend and I are 11 years a part, Im 18. We dated secretly to avoid the scandel as we knew he was moving away in december. Last week he ended it early and we are still on really good terms. Its tricky when we both are attracted to eac...

A.   22 November 2013: im definetly not an advocate of lying or even skirting the truth but in this case id stay quiet. since youd like to stay friends it might freak him out.... (read in full...)

If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...

A.   20 November 2013: in my experience when guys act like this and accuse you of cheating most of the time they already are ... (read in full...)

Is she trying to develop a sexual relationship or chemistry with me?

Q.   Insight needed into whether this chic is interested in dating me or just want to hook up for sex. So I'm lesbian, and I think but am not too sure the chic is bisexual. In any event we went out twice before and after that I kind lost touch with her. ...

A.   18 November 2013: you simply need to ask her whats up... (read in full...)

She let me come back but she's making me pay

Q.   One and half years ago, I dumped my 4 years old girlfriend, was feeling bored in relationship. She was begging for next 8 months to come back in her life but I didn't. Between I tried different dates and they didn't work for me. So like 40 days ...

A.   16 November 2013: hmm im thinking nothings worth all this... (read in full...)

Rooming situation is destroying me

Q.   Help! I am stuck in a roommate situation with a former best friend, but living with her has made literally everything she does annoying. We bonded at first about being high strung people back in high school. But she is diagnosed OCD and thus say...

A.   15 November 2013: i know you arent kids anymore but maybe a call to her parents might help. another suggestion is to maybe help her store the foods in a better fashion so they atleast dont spoil so fast. what if you and the other roommates make a schedule for t... (read in full...)

Are there people who just don't like texting?

Q.   Silly question but do some people just not like texting? I was/am seeing this boy. have been since end of july. When I see him hes lovely! We get on great, he shows me a lot of attention and clearly likes me and enjoys spending time with me. I'...

A.   8 November 2013: i personally hate to text! sometimes ill do voice text but thats annoying too. but if im at a computer ill chat for hours on end.... (read in full...)

I'm 33 and need to make up my mind on whether to have a baby or not?

Q.   Hey! I've just turned 33 and I have a good life. I own my house, have great permanent job, I'm married to the love of my life and have no financial worries. So, it's smooth sailing. Thing is, I'm getting old and I must make up my mind whether to ...

A.   4 November 2013:  this is just my personal experience...not meant to sway either way...i grew up in an abusive environment and never ever wanted kids! i even got the birth control implants. i was in an abusive marriage for years yet stupidly i agreed to have a ... (read in full...)

Is my LDR worth it?

Q.   I've been dating my current boyfriend for a little over two years now, and we have been long distance since 2 weeks after we began dating. We saw each other regularly, but recently he moved further for school and were closer to 5 hours away from ...

A.   28 October 2013: the reason why your content is because youre comfortable. from what you say i dont think things would work if you had to spend face to face time...youd probably not get along. i used to prefer long distance because the communication over the... (read in full...)

I have some doubts about him as a longterm partner!

Q.   My boyfriend asked me to marry him, and now I am torn. Idontknowif anyone else went through the same analyzing stage before getting married, but this is what I am doing right now, and question myself if this is real love and if few qualities that ...

A.   21 October 2013: has he ever talked to a doctor about these issues? he might be on the autism spectrum. with counseling and stuff you would get a better understanding of how he functions and he could learn methods the handle things differently.... (read in full...)

Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"

Q.   this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...

A.   19 October 2013: if i were you id pack his stuff and leave it on the porch!!! he sounds like a bully/selfish baby! if he refuses to leave call the police...if possible have someone there while you tell him to get out.... (read in full...)

Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing?

Q.   Should I ask my ex to our son's birthday outing? We haven't been getting on at all lately, infact that is an understatement. He doesn't see his son much anyway, through his own choice. I don't particularly want him there, but this is...

A.   12 October 2013: i think its great that youre willing to set aside your differences for your sons sake for now. extend an invitation...if he shows he shows, if not atleast you made the effort. by not talking about this with your son is good because he wont be hurt ... (read in full...)

I feel bad that he earns and spends more than I do

Q.   Hello! I am currently a twenty year old college student. Up until recently, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and I usually focused on other things, like relationships and family.It's only now that I've focused on schooling/wor...

A.   6 October 2013: just treat him good...always. men like him are hard to come by!!!!!... (read in full...)

I have lost attraction to my wife since she gained a lot of weight.

Q.   Hi i have a problem,my wife is fat she has put on weight,I requested, advised her to decrease her weight, but she not taking any step to do it,due to this i am annoyed how shall i tell her that i am not able to manage my sexual intercourse, i don't ...

A.   5 October 2013: maybe you could both go on a diet together...its alot easier to stick to a diet and exercise plan if you do it together.... (read in full...)

I'm shy but I want to ask him out. How do I get the courage? And it's Two days before this semester finishes. What can I do?

Q.   We have two days left at university, and I'm too shy to ask him out.. I don't know whether we will have a chance to talk, and even limited opportunity to talk one on one.. We're not friends, but we're on friendly terms.. Please give ...

A.   18 September 2013: just ask him out him if hed like to get a soda/coffee sometime. dont make a big deal of it.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend treats me like his personal assistant! Advice?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for almost a year. He treats me like his personal assistant, and I am finally sticking up for myself. But he is so sensitive that when i do he acts like Im hurting his feelings. For instance he wants me to make and cancel ...

A.   4 September 2013: walk away and dont look back...this guy is and always will take you for granted.... (read in full...)

How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out?

Q.   My boyfriend doesn't work, contribute to bills, rent, groceries and he is destructive. How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out? I met him in January of 2012 and he my first impression was not to feel like he was a very nice person. ...

A.   2 September 2013: Pack his sh** up and put it on the porch! he is not on the lease so legally he can not enter on his own. if need be call the police. i know from personal experience this is going to be scary but you need to do it. if you need to have another ... (read in full...)

I'm eight months pregnant with our first baby boy and I'm absolutely, ridiculously terrified!

Q.   My husband and I have been together for seven years. We're as strong as ever and I couldn't live without him. He's my soul mate. Well, I'm eight months pregnant with our first baby boy and I'm absolutely, ridiculously terrified. I thought I was ...

A.   14 August 2013: when i was pregnant i was afraid i was gonna be a terrible mom just like my mom was! i signed up for parenting/breast feeding classes and everything and was still positive i was gonna be an awful mom. i swear the second the dr gave the baby for me ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!

Q.   Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...

A.   4 August 2013: this is his way of saying he doesnt want kids... (read in full...)

Married couples with a family don't take holidays apart from one another do they?

Q.   I wonder if anyone has any advice, or have been in a similar situation. My husband wins lots of trips abroad through work. I'm talking Las Vegas staying in top hotels and Ibiza. While the trip is paid for food and drink etc is not. My proble...

A.   4 August 2013: my aunt and uncle, who have 2 kids do! they each took one or sometimes both when the kids were younger. they say it helps strengthen the marriage...but honestly i think its just wierd! ... (read in full...)

I'm being harassed by my ex boyfriend's new girl. I just want to be left alone. What do I do?

Q.   Okay so me and this guy dated he broke up with me things ended pretty badly amd more so in a physical altercation he chocked me etc. but anyway he came to my job one week later with another girl after we broke up and then he started talking to this ...

A.   28 July 2013: talk to a manager about how shes harassing you... (read in full...)

Boyfriend broke up with me for not having sex with him

Q.   I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex ...

A.   24 July 2013: honey dont even give him a second thought...hes a jerk! hes also a huge creep for giving you that ultimatum...a halfway decent guy would have atleast hung out with you and tried for sex lol. consider yourself lucky you didnt waste more time on ... (read in full...)

Is there really such thing as a psychic?

Q.   Is there really such thing as a psychic? Ok, strange question, but please read. I'm 26 and a mother of one. I have a degree in genetics and I'm a secondary (high) school science teacher, so I'm slightly skeptical of all the supernatura...

A.   11 July 2013: what you are experiencing is precognative...thats the best word for it imo. i have precognative dreams all the time. i also get wierd strong sensations in my tummy that goes away...its hard to explain but it still freaks me out even after 20+ ... (read in full...)

My oily skin is ruining my life and my makeup! Please help!

Q.   Hi its not really a relationship problem but more of a skin thing. Basically I have seriously oily skin! Like literally you could fry chips on my face, fit or what!! Anyway, I've always had oily skin to a degree but nothing too major thats its ...

A.   23 June 2013: i used to have really really oily skin till i stopped using soap on my face. now i just use water and a washcloth to exfoliate. it works out for me...mayb it will for you!... (read in full...)

Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?

Q.   I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I ...

A.   31 May 2013: maybe you can tell her if shes more than 20 mins late you have the option of leaving... (read in full...)

Weekend's with my boyfriend's children leave me feeling like a slave

Q.   Hi Hope you can help me. I am 33 years old. I have been with my partner (not married) for 2 years. He has 2 kids whom I love to bits and I don't have any, but my fella does want more with me. When my boyfriend was in his late teens, ...

A.   27 May 2013: use tough love and stand up to them! refuse to give in to the mom-or the kids-...shes just trying to cause problems. if the kids disrespect you take something away for a period of time. if they keep disrespecting you take something else away. ... (read in full...)

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