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*ebaslookingforward
writes:In the past few years I have been talking to many people online, first in a multiplayer games site for many years (pogo.com) and more recently, a few months ago, on a teen site.I have had two online girlfriends (long distance and purely online as I've never met anyone that i talked to on these sites since im in Argentina, South America). The second one was a blow. And both were (I have to admit) mostly sexual as I lost interest in the girls when I wasn't turned on. Last january I was in the USA so I sent my 2nd online girlfriend (Megan) a letter. In the end, however, a real life friend asked her out and so she hid that for some time "because she did not want to hurt me", so yes she CHEATED. We recently got to talk again after a couple months in which I found this site and grew up a lot.I still have a few people that I talk to online on MSN on Facebook (I no longer get on any websites, I have wasted enough years online already). Moreover I still talk to Megan.Personally I think that to truly move on from this fake internet world I shouldn't keep talking to these people (a few girls that I have no particular feelings for), specially not to Megan.ANY suggestions?
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (14 April 2011):
sebaslookingforward is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help! Youre right about my ex. I feel much better not talking to her
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Well there is nothing wrong with chatting to friends online (through MSN, Facebook etc), that is incredibly common for millions of people worldwide.
Talking to ex's though is a different matter, especially when she cheated on you - if you keep her in your life you will never be able to fully move on, and no new girl that you meet is going to want a guy who talks to his ex frequently online.
So if you are asking 'is there anything wrong with talking to friends online' - then the answer is no. If the question is 'is there anything wrong with keeping in touch with my ex' - then answer is yes, it is not a good idea and will only cause problems for you in the future. You can only stay friends with an ex if it ended on mutual terms because you simply grew apart (or something similar) - if one person cheated and really hurt the other person, then there will always be residual feelings that are left over and there will always be some hurt involved, so the friendship can never be a 'true' friendship because there will be some underlying feelings left over.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (13 April 2011):
sebaslookingforward is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have lots of friends and I don't have any problem talking to girls. I go out a lot. This thing bugs me but it did not stop me from developing any of that.
This is why I'm posting this question here: I really don't know if there's anything wrong with it if you consider what I have said so I wanted some opinions
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 April 2011):
Definitely stop talking to them all, it sounds like the internet has meant that you have had problems in developing relationships and emotional connections - and this will be directly related to not meeting people in real life.
Get outside and meet some real girls, the internet is no place to try and meet people especially at your age. There is a lot to be said for a real physical connection, that spark when you first see someone across a room - so get out there and try and find it!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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