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female
age
41-50,
*ibra lady
writes:Dear allI need to get some good advise from you guys here.First of all, I get to know this guy online. He is 30, myanmar, Virgo and I am 34, Chinese, libra.We met each other after chatting online for 10 days then we decide to meet up. After meeting up, he text me "how I feel about him" and "if I like him" and I just text back that "I like him" and he text back that he like me and would like to stay with me and will do everything for me include sex. And he always want me to go to his house which I refuse to do so. And have told him straight that we are four years age age different and he say he is okie with it. And I also told him that I'm a traditional person and prefer to have sex after marriage and I am not suitable for him if he is just looking for a girl to have sex. And he apologized to me to make me so upset on his behavior.Then after a 5 days later, he texted me that he missed me and would like to meet up with me. Okie, I got a few question to post here.1) is he serious with me or just kidding with me?2) what he meant "want to stay with me"?3) he is a Virgo, and is it truth that Virgo guy are sometimes hot and sometimes cold?4) should I give him a chance as I have never expect myself- 34 years old in a relationship with someone younger than me.Lastly, thank you all for your good advise in advance.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 First of all a 4 year gap is nothing at your age… I’m going to be 52 next month my fiancé is 38…
Astrology means nothing either…
You’ve met once… so that means you live close enough to meet fairly regularly and figure out if you want to build a relationship.
We don’t know if he’s serious or kidding only he knows that
WE don’t know if he’s after just sex but it’s likely he is so stand your ground on that
I have no clue what he means by “want to stay with me” so you will have to ASK HIM
Astrology is bunk… don’t worry about astrological signs as a way to predict the future or behavior
I would tell him that you would like to consider getting to know him better
Have contact by SKYPE and phone
MEET in public do not go to a hotel or have him to your home or go to his home… do NOT get in a car with him.
Get to know him and make sure that you keep it NON-SEXUAL in all ways till you are sure of him.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (5 February 2012):
 To me, his mind is on sex, and your is on a long lasting relationship. I say this because it was the first thing he mentioned in his text. If I were you, I would move on. You really don't know this person.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 February 2012):
 First, let me toss out the star wars references(I know nothing about astrological stuff). The age difference is enough worry over. Cultural difference not so much. girls from china are highly adaptable(in my experence) so no worry there. chatting on line is where the problem lies. You can tell nothing about a person's sincerity without being face to face.
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