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writes:I have always had a fear of relationships but what really scares me is if I ever fell in "Love" that I would be cheated on. Ive heard and read stories of people that are in happy relationships and then one day they wake up and realize their partner has been cheating on them for a long while. Is a relationship worth the risk of being cheated on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): Okay, I'm obviously not here to judge you on your views because everyone has their own views,
however the people that worry about their partner if it was for cheating 24/7 obviously has trust issues with them,
Yes some people make a mistake with some relationships, but then again isn't it better to have some experience of an actual relationship than none atall?
If someone comes along that you fall hard for & they like you - Go for it, because no matter how it turns out you'll feel happy having someone so close to you, yes it might go completely wrong but then it might make you see that the time with that person was great...
If you're not looking for a relationship with someone then wait til your views have changed
But "The only reason people get in relationships anyway is for secure sex."
Sex isn't always the reason - I've been with my boyfriend 6 months & I met him three days before, but we haven't had sex & it's not just me that doesn't want to -
Honestly a relationship makes you happy, if you're not happy with the person leave them & wait til you find someone who makes you happy,
I know some parts of what I said went off subject but it's just to show that a relationship is worth testing out,
Life's never easy, you have to take some hits for love to go right (:
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 I would say that you are not ready for an intense relationship because you have not yet learned how to trust. You've got a young mind and need to find your self-confidence. Work on yourself first. Practice listening to the inner voice, the voice that we were all born with but tend to ignore as we move out of childhood. If you find the inner voice and self-confidence you will learn to trust your instincts and will have done as much as you can to reduce the risk of "being burned", be it by a lover or a best friend. Good luck and take care.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Yeah, but most people do not worry 24/7 about their partner cheating on them, unless they are extremely neurotic or insecure.
Ever heard about something called trust ?
Trust can be betrayed , yes.
And the company you work for can go bankrupt. Your dog can turn against you and bite you. You can go for a walk and be hit by a flower vase fallen from a fourth floor window.
Shit happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo basically i should just stand there and take it like a man if i got cheated on? I love being single but because im only humanI get mixed feeling about relationships and sometimes want to be in one. Its just sad that i see good people get hurt over stupid things in relationships but why put myself through that? Being single i dont have to worry about anybody but me. I never understood how people can live with worrying 24/7 about their lover. The only reason people get in relationships anyway is for secure sex. If being in a relationship means having to throw away my freedom mentaly ill just stay single for years to come.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Hi,
That's a good question, but if you don't take the change you will never know. If you worry about these things now, you might miss so many opportunities of meeting great people, great experiences, and the love of your life.
Some people are lucky to have a healthy, happy relationship, and have never experience anything like cheating. But, reality is that cheating happens to anybody, good people in fact, sometimes not even fault of their own, but happens. It's part of life, you deal with it, learn from it, hope and pray that won't happen again, and move on. You cannot stop living your life, thinking about what could be, or happen.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): If you're this worried you should make sure you know the person first. Sometimes it takes a few relationships & a few mistakes to find someone you'll fall in love with. (I don't mean go around going with the wrong people)
In all honesty I think relationships can be worth the risk because you might find someone who could be perfect for you but then you turn them down because you're worried about them cheating.
But you have to just do what your heart tells you to.
I hope this has helped x
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (12 September 2011):
 This is the exception and not the norm. The reason we hear about these cases is not just because of how painful they can be but how unusual they are.
The rewards are worth the risk.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Well I dunno... is it worth using motor vehicles given their serious potential to harm us? The reward is worth the risk.
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