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I'm pregnant and my husband is talking to a woman. Its making me sick

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Question - (12 May 2018) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 May 2018)
A female Hong Kong age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I just found out my husband chat with his friend. He said he is a changes man now, not going to dark places anymore since he get to know a woman in the past. She adviced and changed him. I know he isnt talking about me. We have been dating for almost a decade before we marry. I dont know who the woman he is talking about.

I asked him who the woman he is talking about. He said he just said that to open new conversation topic with his friend. He said man talks shit when they have a chat. I dont trust him. I know somthing is up to. Maybe its just in the past. But i feel so uncomfortable. Im pregnant with our first child and since i know this my health is deteriorated. I get stomach ulcer from this stress. He said i think too much and shouldnt be like that.

Since we dating we rarely spent time together as he has many excuses to avoid date. Like he is busy working. I know he sometimes just made up excuses and actually go out with his friends. Now we are married we still rarely spent time together as we have different schedule and he is busy with his work. I cant trust him. I think he still go out with his friends without me knowing. He has friends that give him bad influence, most of them are divorced and playboy. I feel he changed since being friends with them.

Im weaker day by day because of this stress and he thinks im overreacting that all pregnant woman is kinda sick.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (21 May 2018):

You need someone who has a little time to sit and chat with you during the day, to keep you calm. You have to see your doctor about the ulcers and anxieties you experience. You are pregnant; so being hormonal, you will be very emotional. That's natural.

It's neither right nor natural, for your husband to be out carousing and running with his friends; leaving you alone, upset, and pregnant.

Is your mother, sister, aunt, or your grandmother able to keep you company; and give you loving female-advice? Do you get along with your mother-in-law?

Going through your first pregnancy is going to be, and should be, a scary and wonderful experience. Your husband is falling in-line with other men; and it is apparent he doesn't have sympathy for your condition. You know how men in many cultures are; they can do whatever they want, and answer to nobody. That's why you draw closer to the women in your family to guide you, comfort you, and to have someone to talk to.

Distancing yourself from your family leaves you stranded and alone like this. No one can support and advise you; if you've pushed your family away for a man they have never liked. If that is the case, it is time you mend fences with your family. Your pride has to be put aside. You need them!

If you left your family in another country; consider leaving and returning home.

You are not overreacting; your hormones are going crazy and you may have married the wrong man. You've devoted much of your life to him; but maybe you married him for the wrong reasons; or just to provide grandchildren for your parents.

Whatever; you need to focus on you, the baby, and your health. Not him for right now. Once the baby is born and healthy; you can decide what to do about your marriage. For now, it is all about YOU and the baby.

God bless you, and give you guidance and comfort.

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