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No sex since getting back together

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Question - (12 May 2018) 2 Answers - (Newest, 23 May 2018)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been seeing this guy for a while now. On several occasions we broke up for about a week or two at a time. The last time we broke up it seemed we were really over with. A chick messaged me to tell me that whenever we break up they talk, that she had a fling with him a few months before him and I met, but aside from them talking she didn't really say much of anything worth getting upset about. Out of anger (I suppose) I started hanging out with a different guy who was really cool and fun to hang out with. We only hung out a few times before me and my guy worked things out and decided to try again. I was honest about everything.

It's been about a week since we got back together. Since then we haven't had intercourse a single time, despite sleeping next to each other every night. We used to do it pretty much every night. I've dropped hints that I wanted to but he seems tired as soon as we go to bed. He's made flirty comments throughout the day, but nothing comes of it. Aside from that, he seems like a more present boyfriend, as before he blew me off a lot or was kinda a douche bag, now he's really attentive and talks about our future more etc.

I'm wondering why the change in his sex drive. Could it be he has a conscience for sleeping around on me during our breakup? Or could it be that hanging out with the other guy last week makes him feel differently about me? I'm confused about his behavior.

On a side note, I told him that I told the other guy he'll be waiting a month to sleep with me if we date, and when my guy inquired about a hookup during our split that I wasn't sexually active at the moment, but it was because I was considering myself single. He briefly mentioned once that he was gonna wait a month but he said it like he was joking and it wouldn't make much sense since we've already slept together a hundred times anyways. A guys perspective would be really nice.

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A female reader, matimoo Canada +, writes (23 May 2018):

Sex isn't everything! Keep that in mind when being with a guy. Maybe, for whatever reason, he wants sex to mean something with you. He might feel guilty for sleeping with so many other women, and is trying to make it up by showing you that he isn't with you just to be sexually active. I doubt he's mad about you hanging out with the other guy, but it's a possibility. Give him time, don't pressure him, and respect the fact that sometimes, no doesn't come with a reason.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 May 2018):

Honeypie agony auntCould he have a STD?

Why not just ASK him?

He is probably the one who can answer this.

If you can't TALK to him about sex, how can you have sex with a guy?

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