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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've known this guy since 9th grade, we're 12th grade nowIn 10th grade i had a crush on him but I noticed he was all over other girls so I stoppedAnd a few months ago he was texting me A LOT and told me he really likes me and wanted to go out. And i was like, um sorry but you seem to be into all girls, i dont think you really like me, how about go ask someone else? And after that he stopped texting me and would be really quiet in class but i'd still act like i was friends with him like nothing happenedAnd a few days ago one of my friends said that in class he looks at me sadly all the time. I thought he'd be over it by now??And on his birthday (a day before my friend told me the above) i made him an origami cat out of paper and gave it to him and i was like happy birthday here's a cat and left.And the day after in class his friend asked me for paper and i gave it to him and his friend was like thanks, and he was quietly like "shes so awesome" or somethingAm i being cold or mean? I feel bad that he still feels bad about the rejection and likes me but im so not into himAnd its valentines day soon, i was wondering if i should like get him a piece of chocolate or something to be nice (ive been feeling like a bitch) or is that just leading him on?Thanks!
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (10 February 2013):
You do seem cold and mean and what not but there is no wrong I suppose in what you are doing. It is a good thing you aren't leading him on. Giving him chocolate for V-day is not a good idea, it would be leading him on or give him false hopes.
My ex used to be "brutally honest" as well. There isn't anything wrong with being honest but I think a little consideration and tact goes a long way because if anything it shows that you understand rather than just being defensive.
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reader, XoLove07  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Honey , there is nothing wrong with putting a guy in his place. In fact, the world should have more girls just like you. If he's been with a lot of girls , then you'll be just another one on his list. He's sad because he's obviously not used to having a girl say no to him. You're young and there are plenty of fish in the sea :)
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