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*igBurk
writes:I been married 3yrs this September, im a wounded warrior i have some medical and mental issues. The wife and i had an argument i left at 2am to stay with my brother a week or two goes by and she claims she gonna start to see other people. Bout two weeks later total of month and a day or two,someone had recommended i try some testosterone boosters cause some of my meds was creating hormonal imbalance. I did it somehow brought me back to reality and i finally realized what had happened. I went too wife and apologized and begged for forgiveness. She claims this guy is great. I found her a house I moved all her things bought her new appliances, and i have stayed some nights with her,she claims she loves me kisses me sleeps with me,sex,but she continues to say we are moving too fast and she continues to talk to this guy constantly and gets mad when i bring up us being back together. I want our marriage back an. I have massage Her feet hands and whole body every night. Thats all i ask for is to add me back to Facebook/or delete facebook ,delete his name number and him completely out her life or im gone....any input is very much accepted. ...
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reader, KimPossiblee +, writes (18 March 2014):
 Well, when you left for a week or two, That's when everything probably got serious with her. If you really loved her you wouldn't had leave her wondering that long. As a women, we can be very emotional and can have crazy hormones as well. If you don't show her love and affection, some girls can just get up and leave, while some girls let it effect them dangerously. Love is a crazy thing, bunch of unbalanced hormones creating a feeling. I think you should try to work it out, and to see if the love is still there, and only you can tell if she still loves you, if not move on, you made the decision and you have to be strong about it. Don't feel guilty or bad, But be strong, maybe if you ignore her after trying so hard, who knows she will miss you more.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 March 2014):
 First of all, thank you for your service. I can't imagine what you have gone through.
There are two things you need to address because though they seem like the same problem, and these problems affect each other, they are two separate issues.
FIRST, your wife. She has no reason to see other guys, and quite frankly you letting her step out like this while massage, buying her a house (?!??!), and funding her fun with another guy NEEDS to stop. She is cheating on you, and you have done nothing to deserve this. Stop feeling like you pushed her to it, call your lawyer, and divorce her, cutting her off as financially as the courts will allow, because truly if you want her back, your actions only serve to decrease her love and respect for you. However, standing up and not being taken for a ride is the better course for you.
SECOND, you are dealing with a lot of things, and if where you live is the same as where I live, the VA is crap for treating health and mental issues. Do what you must to give all your symptoms to a therapist and doctor and stay in treatment on an ongoing basis. It takes time to figure out treatment and therapy, so don't give up.
And if you're married, then what the hell is there to "move too fast" about? YOU'RE MARRIED - and she's treating you like dirt to keep talking and sexing another guy.
If she doesn't live with you, call a lawyer, divorce her, and get the equity, and then cut her loose.
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