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writes:Hi,I'm a virgin at 18, because I'm waiting for the right person to have my first time with. Do you think this is a silly thing to do, and that I should have done it differently? I've had the opportunity to, but would rather have it with another virgin who is also waiting for the right person.My mates have retty much all done it, and take the piss a little. I would never be pressured into doing something I don't want to do, but am I being a little naive on this issue?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, claraclogz +, writes (19 August 2007):
no you should be glad of it. i didnt have sex until i was 17, and i wanted to make sure i was in love with my guy. 4 years later we are still together,have our own home and engaged to get married.
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reader, puzzled  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 sensible defo not silly. thats a romantic thing witch sud hapen between two ppl who love and care for each other i think your idea of waitin for "mr right" is a GREAT idea and fair play to you doing so!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): no not silly keep on waitting for her and hope you find her soon
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Hey my name is Aaron and i think u are doing the right thing don't have to worry i'm 18 and i'm still a virgin and i'm waiting for the right person to and i'm going to stick to it. i think u are doing the right thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): Honestly you are being nothing but sensible. This idea may not attract everyone yet if it is how you feel then brilliant. Quite a few people regret having sex at an earlier age. This tells me that it is more to you than physical contact its trust and being comfortable with someone you love. Stick with what you believe!
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reader, x-kay_kay-x  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 it not silly it sensible at the end of the day u only loose it once at ya want to make sure it to the right person and you want to feel comfortable wile doin it and enjoy it
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reader, caraduddy +, writes (31 July 2007):
 I think your being sensible and wize. Most people who have lost their virginity at an earlier age regret it and would go back if they could. Its also special to some people and with you waiting for the right person is good because its a special thing with a special person. Good luck and be proud of what you have done. You havn't just thrown it away like some people do. Cara.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): Nah, not silly at all! You've done great to maintain your virginity this long. Listen, continue to wait. Trust me. Just wait. And think about waiting until your married. You'll getting ready for your big day - planning, dresses, receptions - all that. When the day comes, you'll be standing in front of lots of people watch you tell the person you love that YOU LOVE THEM. You'll dance and take pictures all night. People will gawk at how beautiful you are - and so will your new husband. He'll bask in your beauty, and you'll see just how handsome your man is. You'll go to your honeymoon suite and make love for the first together after all the build up and all the action that went on during the day. Sex is psychological in a number of ways - when you two finally join together for the first time - it will be great!
That is, if you WANT to get married and all...
Hope this helps.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (31 July 2007):
Hi,
You are in a minority, but so what? If your friends think you are silly, that says more about them than it does about you. They haven’t grown up yet, I wouldn’t worry about them. If you were to ask women in their 20’s, 30’s and older, they would say ‘good on you, stick to what you feel right about’. We all felt the same peer pressure that you are experiencing. I bet that most of us that didn’t wait for the right man, wish that we had waited. Not for moral reasons or anything like that, but because everyone remembers their first time forever. What a pity for it to be ‘just getting it over with’. I think if you start with someone that really cares for you, and you care for him, it will be happier in every way, not just emotionally, but also physically. You stick to what you believe.
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reader, myp  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 no its not silly at all, waiting for the right person is great. they dont necessarily have to be someone ur going to marry, but they should definitely be someone u have some kind of emotional connection with. Matter of fact i hope u lose it before u get married but to someone special because honestly before u get married u should make sure ur sexually compatible with your partner.
N e wayz back to the question, yeah its not silly in the least and im happy that your following your own beliefs instead of giving into pressure. Your not being naive your just waiting and thats fine.
best of luck
-Myesha
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reader, skye +, writes (31 July 2007):
 I couldnt agree more with Midge. Wait until you feel ready. So what is others make fun of you, its none of their business! You arent your friends, do what is right for you. I was a bit older than you when I lost my virginity and Im so glad that I waited. I had a really nice experience. A few of my friends even confided that they wished they had waited too.
You will know when the time is right for you. Dont settle for anything less. You will be glad you.
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reader, Midge +, writes (31 July 2007):
 There are so few people like you these days, but its good to know that there are still some like you out there!
No, you hold on till the right person comes along! If your friends take the piss, dont let it bother you, later on in life when you are with the person you love and they are still looking for the one, you can then think about what a good move you made to wait.
The only thing you have to remember is that, not everyone views our opinion and that there will obviously be the odd few out there that will tell you how silly you are, but honestly, stick to your beliefs and dont let anyone tempt you. When you are happily married you will be greatful you did and you'll have a happier marriage too.
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