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writes:I have been seeing my partner for 14 months. He is a chef and when we met he was living and working in the same town. I have my children on alternate weeks and when they were not with me, I spent the week with my partner. He would come out to me about 3 times a week when I had my children. 8 months ago my partner took another job about 50 mile away from his house, but which is nearer to me, and comes back to me Tues, Wed and Thurs evenings - he gets in around 10.30pm. Friday he goes home and Saturday he stays at the pub as he finishes very late. He has Sunday evenings and Mondays off work. I feel that he should make time to see me on the Monday evening when my children are with me - (I work 9 - 4 on this week)in order that we can get some 'proper' time together as during the week we're usually in bed an hour after he arrives home, but he said he needs to spend time at his home. He says he can't give me any more at the moment. Can you tell me if I am being unreasonable in my request as it is causing a lot of arguments and I spend most of my time in tears. We had a loving relationship before he changed his job. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 I don't think your request is unreasonable in itself. You just want to spend more time with him, since you see him so little. However, it seems to me that he would want his Mondays to do some stuff of his own. If he is still seeing you, and loves you, perhaps it would be good if you let him have Monday evenings for himself. What it he wants to have a beer with a friend, for example?
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