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writes:Hi me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and a half, and it's going wonderfully, I think I am falling for him. The problem is, we get a lot of judgement due to our ages, he is 19 and I am 16. So he has got a job, and I am at sixth form college. I am so happy with him, and my parents don't mind the age gap, but friends do. Is it inappropriate? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sarah4adam +, writes (2 September 2012):
Its okay about the age difference, i am in the same situation my boyfriend is 19 in 2days and im 16 my mum is fine with it but people say its wrong cause he's 3yrs older, you shouldn't care what people say as long as your happy with him then what matters :)
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Its perfectly fine. If you are happy and he is happy then those who judge clearly don't know happiness when they see it.
I hope you guys are very happy.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 my father was 19 and my mom 16 when they went on their first (blind) date...
if your parents are ok with it
and you and the bf are happy then what the friends say does not matter...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 April 2012):
 As long as your parents are cool about it, then just relax and have fun.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 No, it's not inappropriate. It is just your friends who aren't used to it. Tell them that you are tired of being judged and that they should support you since they are your friends, instead of commenting on your relationship. You are happy with your relationship, then so should they be.
I think they are probably just jealous of you that you have a boyfriend who is 19. Most girls your age would love to have an older boyfriend.
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reader, LincolnProblemo +, writes (11 April 2012):
I think that it isn't inappropriate, it can work. My best friend went out with a girl who was 17, when he was 21. However, the girl broke it off with him after couple of years since she wanted to explore more and understand herself more.
Which is fair enough, but they were a really good couple.
Also, you are legally old enough to have sex, so why not?
Friends your age who find it inappropriate are jealous, friends his age, who find it inappropriate are just immature.
Good luck.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (11 April 2012):
 I dont think so at all, when I was 16 I went out with a 21 year old!!
As long as your parents are ok with it and you are happy then that is all that matters - 3 years is a perfectly normal age gap and really isnt a problem.
I think the reason why you will be getting the judgement is because you are still at school whereas he has a job - if he was a 19 year old still in college/university I'm sure there wouldnt be such a problem.
Dont worry what other people think, at the end of the day as long as you are happy that is all that matters. It is your life and you are the one living, other people's opinions are irrelevant.
3 years is a perfectly normal age gap, and when you turn 20 (for example) and he is 23 no-one will bat an eyelid. It is just because you are only 16 (in 2 years time no-one will even care) and you are still in school. But dont worry about that, there is nothing wrong with your relationship so carry on and be happy!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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