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writes:Ok, so this may be kinda long but i just need some advice. My boyfriend and i have been on an off for almost 3 years now. At least once every year, he dumps me saying he has lost his feelings for me. Of course i am heartbroken an try to go on until exactly 2 weeks later. He messages me an we end up sorting it out all the time. In march we moved in together with another couple too, and just a few days ago he dumps me again saying feelings changed. Now this is even harder because now we live together an none of us wanna move out cuz we all on a lease. I dont know what to do. Why does he always dump me? Especially using the same exuse. I really want him back. He's got stress in his life, but i didn't think he would have to do this.The day it happened after i got over my shock, i went to him an started crying an so did he. If he had no feelings for me, why cry? Men dont usually cry...
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 u need to have a talk with him about this, and say why is it before we have broken up and got back together i know you have feelings for me. so why have you broken up with me ? is it commitment to the relationship? you need to discuss this and see what he says so you know what move you can make dont push him to hard or it might have the opposite effect. hope this helps aphex
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reader, yummyummy123 +, writes (22 May 2008):
yummyummy123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well thanks
how do u get over the commitment issue?
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (22 May 2008):
their is obviously something wrong here and the only way to get an answer is out of him im afraid..i think the emotions is set high and that your both feeling the strain. hope this helps aphex
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Despite popular belief, men cry... we just hide it better than the other half of the species. Like any other human on the planet, we have emotions, but tend not to show the unpleasant ones. The usual exception? An intimate relationship where we feel comfortable expressing our emotions more openly.
To me, it seems like there's something that keeps popping up in your relationship and if you want to get over this, you're going to have get him to reveal whatever it is to you. If it's something you can handle together, great... otherwise, I might be forced to conclude he's got (yet another typical guy thing) commitment issues.
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