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writes:Right here it goes. For the past 2 years i have been such close friends with a boy, and and i would do absoloutly anything for him. I have a ball when i'm around him, and he always knows how to make me smile. The thing is, the past year i think i have fallen for him, and i really don't know what to do. My head's an absolute mess, i can't stop crying because i just wish he felt the same. I have never ever felt this feeling before about anybody. I would literally kill for him, and i know every one will say, 'oh just tell him', but i can't, beacuse i would rather have him as a friend than nothing at all, because he means so much to me.Please help me, i really can't bare this.:( Xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Miss sunshine  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 it is really hard but you can't go on in this situation for a long time. sooner or later you have to chose. i say you can show him you are interested but not very much. you can give him some "hints" like hit on him but not too much. "pass him the ball to see if he throughs back". just put in the back of his head that maybe you want more than a friendship with him. don't you prefer to try and see what happens than stay like this for a long time and wonder what might have happened if you made your move?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks xx
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Unfortunately, your friends are completely right on this one. You've got two choices... either you continue to be upset and emotional, silently going through an unrequited love scenario... or you could take the bolder approach and start poking questions to him... questions and statements that might allow you to see if he's interested in a more intimate relationship... that's the subtle approach... or you could take a risk, reach up and plant a big wet kiss on his lips and see if that's enough of the spark to get you two rolling toward a happy relationship.
I would go for Option B -- there's no reason to be driving yourself mad over a risk not taken.
Of course, there's always the more devious approach and get a common friend to be an advocate for you... just a thought...
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