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writes:Hi I was wondering what may be going through this guy's head? We met a few months ago and before New Year's he came over to my friend's house one night and was being very flirty with me, and kissed me a few times and we cuddled up on the couch together to watch movies. Well, this is when he had a girlfriend, and then they broke up. After the break up he had a party and invited me over and we ended up making out again. He got kind of sensitive and seemed like he felt guilty for breaking up with the girl, but he knew it was the right thing. Anyways, the next day he was texting saying that he didn't want to sleep with me because he was feeling weird about the break up still and he didn't want to get involved with anyone (even though I told him I wasn't interested in a relationship). I just find it strange that he was the one coming on to me, and then when I want to have sex no strings or anything, he refuses?? Not the response I'm used to from men! What do you think this means?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): You just ran into a guy that will not hump anything on two legs. I know it's shocking but there are actually a lot of them out there.
Don't read too much into it. If he was making out with you then he probably finds you sexy enough. But just like women, he has feelings and he might not have been ready for something else right after breaking up with a GF.
And he might also have been very aware of jepardising your friendship. You might have told him you're not after anything serious, but that doesn't always mean the feelings won't start showing anyway. Both genders can have that happen whether they wanted & expected it or not.
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reader, ShadowGoddess231 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 What you said to him made you out to be a whore... What you can do to make everything better is that you tell him what you are feeling for him and then go from there, and tell him sorry for sounds so whore-ish with him and sex. He is really wanting a girl to be with and not some sex fiend. He may even want to love you and be with you. So be a friend and help him out with whatever he needs like in as a good ear to talk to and have a heart to reach out and touch the poor guy. He is after all on the rebound. So be a friend and not a fiend.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 He may be looking for strings-attached sex, rather than no strings-attached sex. Some men actually are!
Your offer of no-strings sex might have turned him off you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
It means he wasn't over his ex and was good enough not to use you as a rebound. It's nothing personal, he just couldn't do it because he's not over his ex.
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