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I am deeply in love with my cousin and I don't know what to do cause he says he likes me too

Q.   I am in love with ma cousin I moved in with ma cousin because living on campus was very expensive but he had only one bedroom apartment since he couldn't tell my parents that so he would sleep on the couch and me on the bed. But at some point he...

A.   27 February 2009: I don't think he should come over becouse if he did it will be even harder to not do anything. And about the relationship thing he is you cousin still be his friend but nothing else depending on how serious yall are it maybe be hard but and you know ... (read in full...)

Worryed my dad will sexually abuse my niece as he did me!

Q.   I have a problem with my own dad. He sexually abused me when I was 10 years old. I am afraid he is attracted to young girls. I know he has bathed with my niece who is 8 years old, and everytime she is over, he has her on his lap. I wasn't abused by ...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay I kinda know how you feel my lttle sis was raped at 6. But anyways what I would do is without just coming out and just saying it just ask your cousin or what not ask if he has ever touched her or got her to do weird things please I really hate ... (read in full...)

I am deeply in love with my cousin and I don't know what to do cause he says he likes me too

Q.   I am in love with ma cousin I moved in with ma cousin because living on campus was very expensive but he had only one bedroom apartment since he couldn't tell my parents that so he would sleep on the couch and me on the bed. But at some point he...

A.   27 February 2009: First off he is your cousin by the way I am 20 he will not be able to marry you and their will be familly problems not to mention children problems not trying to be mean but I don't think It should be done. I hope this helps please let me know ... (read in full...)

Should I be loyal to a relationship that no longer exists?

Q.   My girlfriend abruptly broke up with me about 5 weeks ago after I had confessed to her that I had been doing speed for a week straight. A quick background: She left a abusive relationship in June. We became exclusive in November. She had d...

A.   27 February 2009: The best thing that I can think of is just wait for now if she does not talk to you for about 2 weeks move on and I aint shure she might of been aring someone else and just used you as a justified reason. Or else when you sent her the drug test then ... (read in full...)

Could she be pregnant even with us using a condom?

Q.   hi to all of you out there. well me and my g/f had sex on the 24th and we used a brand new condom and i came inside her with the condom on my penis. could she be pregnant even thought the condom didnt break or it didnt have any leakage. this morning ...

A.   27 February 2009: I do not think it would happend that fast but if she misses he Period you should get a test or you can take a peal that's called the night before or the morning after it will help her I hope this helps ... (read in full...)

My g/f's grandmother died..is she taking it out on me?

Q.   Yesterday night my girlfriends grandmother died. I want to be there for her but she's really not letting me. She tried to avoid me today... But she ended up talking to me. Overall she's been very mean to me... I don't bring up her grandmother ...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay what it sounds like us her grandmother was very close to her and she lost her what it sounds like to me is that she still likes you but is going through a hard Time right now just be their for her and help her through this time the worst thing ... (read in full...)

Could she be pregnant from dry humping

Q.   Ok, me and my girl friend were dry humping. When I came, the seamon went through my pants(like over the waist part thing). And it got onto her tights, and onto her panties as well. She went to the bathroom and removed the tights and underwear af...

A.   27 February 2009: Ya just make shure she does not miss her period. Or morning sickness or weird eating habits but first will come the missed period ... (read in full...)

Could she be pregnant from dry humping

Q.   Ok, me and my girl friend were dry humping. When I came, the seamon went through my pants(like over the waist part thing). And it got onto her tights, and onto her panties as well. She went to the bathroom and removed the tights and underwear af...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay it is highly unlikely but if she missing the next period she needs to be checked out ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I am not obsessed with sex?

Q.   hey everyone, ive got a question. well, im 16 going on 17, i have a lot of friends, guys and girls, and were all pretty much open about everything, homosexuality, sex etc. well im just wondering, everyone around me is soo obsessed with sex, guys a...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay hi I am 20year old guy all through high school I felt the same way I mean I am straight but I was not wired for sex even til this day its nice ya but I am not crazy for its just something between 2 people that should be shared between 2 people. ... (read in full...)

I need your help! How do I get closer to him and show him that I'm the one he needs exclusively???

Q.   I've had a crush on this guy for a while. He's really well known in my area and it's almost a privilege to be able to associate oneself with him. a few weeks ago, I started hanging out with him and found him to be really easy going and fun to hang ...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay I am 20 years old and I hope this helps first off. Try and see if their is any way that to get him to come to you try and tease him if you can I really hope this works if not please let me know I am going to watch this for a while message me if ... (read in full...)

I need your help! How do I get closer to him and show him that I'm the one he needs exclusively???

Q.   I've had a crush on this guy for a while. He's really well known in my area and it's almost a privilege to be able to associate oneself with him. a few weeks ago, I started hanging out with him and found him to be really easy going and fun to hang ...

A.   27 February 2009: Okay I am 20 years old and I hope this helps first off. Try and see if their is any way that to get him to come to you try and tease him if you can I really hope this works if not please let me know I am going to watch this for a while message me if ... (read in full...)

How to ask about second date without being pushy?

Q.   I went to the cinema with this guy last Monday, we had a great time. He text me the same night saying how good it was and suggested going out again. i text back agreeing. The next day he seemed less flirty online and I mentioned about going out ...

A.   26 February 2009: Just come out and ask him when can yall go out again tell gume that you like his company and you have fun with him and would like to go out again ... (read in full...)

I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?

Q.   im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?...

A.   26 February 2009: I have to say wait I was 17 when I lost myn and it was to be best friend and we are still beat friends just wait its normal at your age to want that. I really hope this helps if not please Let me know ... (read in full...)

He hasn't replied, should I start looking elsewhere?

Q.   Basically went on the first date, Couldn't of gone any better, We chatted for 2.5hrs then we walked for a bit and found a place to sit there we kissed for 2.5 hrs, Then i walked her to her car holding hands, Text her on Monday to see what she is ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay sometime messages fail to reach the persone make shure that she has the message call her but don't bother her to much don't want to seem desperate just call her and ask if she got your text or just ask her out thursday I really hope this helps ... (read in full...)

We met a couple of times, when is it OK to sleep with him?

Q.   Hi I've just started dating a guy quite a lot older than me. I like him a lot, and I also find him very attractive but we have only met up a couple of times, and been talking on the phone etc. I dont want to sleep with him too soon, but I think he ...

A.   26 February 2009: Ya I have to say that I think if he really likes you then he will except the fact you do not want to rush it so just talk to him about it pluse if all else fails there is more ways than one to please someone. I hope this helps please let me know if ... (read in full...)

He says maybe when he has lost some weight we will have sex again!? I don't understand him.

Q.   I have been with my boyfrined for 2 years now. Since september last year he has been acting strange and we havent been sleeping together. We have has sex 4 times since then. He isnt cheating on me i know that for sure because i am always with him.He ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I am 20 Year old male and I hope this help What I think is happening is he is 30 he is getting older and bigger and when he watches porn its professionals they allways look good it it seems like to me he is self cautious about his weight just... (read in full...)

He dumped me because I nagged too much. Is it too late?

Q.   Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I hope that this helps what I would tell him you will do whatever it takes to fix it if it was a lack of talking or maybe talking to much whatever it takes I am willing to do so. He was the one that broke up with you so let him know that your ... (read in full...)

Are these signs of him wanting to break up?

Q.   So my boyfriend always ignores me whenever he sees me, he doesnt call me anymore and when i call him he makes up excuses and says "someone else is calling, ill call you back" and when i say "i love you" he'll say it back but it's more of an "i dont ...

A.   26 February 2009: Hi I am a 20 year old male and unfortunately ya it sounds like the signals of a break up and you sound like a really nice girl and I wish guys treated girls better but I hope this helps if not please let me know ... (read in full...)

My fiance has a problem with her own past and I'm starting to feel like I'm held hostage in this relationship!

Q.   I've been in a LD relationship and have been engaged for just over nine months. I really love my fiance very much but we have recently been experiencing problems. We disagree on many issues and cannot seem to compromise as we both are stubborn. ...

A.   26 February 2009: Well I think that try and help her through what she has done in the past and I know that yall getting in fights might be bad for the wedding but you postponing the wedding makes her feel like you don't want her couse of her past my advise is to be ... (read in full...)

I get this feeling my boyfriend might break up with me...

Q.   I feel like my boyfriend is about to break up with me. He's confronted me about the situation a few times but I haven't done anything about it and this time I think he means it. For a while now he's been telling me I'm too controlling and I say ...

A.   26 February 2009: Hi I am a 20 year old guy ask him how your controling and just trust him a relationship is all based on trust. And ask him what you say that hurts and just don't do that but first tell him that you want to change and you would like if he helped ... (read in full...)

I don't mind if I become pregnant but my fiance is not sold on the idea

Q.   Hi everyone. I wonder if anyone can help me here? My fiance proposed to me at the weekend. That night, we consumated the engagement. We didn't realise, until I felt him cumming inside me, that the condom had split. He uses an ultra-thin make so it ...

A.   26 February 2009: Hi I am a 20 year old guy and no I do not think your being to pushy I think you love him a lot and want a family and I think he is just worried I don't think its the fact he does not want a child I just think he is just worried about the whole idea. ... (read in full...)

I don't mind if I become pregnant but my fiance is not sold on the idea

Q.   Hi everyone. I wonder if anyone can help me here? My fiance proposed to me at the weekend. That night, we consumated the engagement. We didn't realise, until I felt him cumming inside me, that the condom had split. He uses an ultra-thin make so it ...

A.   26 February 2009: Hi I am a 20 year old guy and no I do not think your being to pushy I think you love him a lot and want a family and I think he is just worried I don't think its the fact he does not want a child I just think he is just worried about the whole idea ... (read in full...)

He wants to go on a trip without me and I don't feel comfortable about it!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have just 6 months ago taken my husband back after a few years apart. We separated somewhat ammicably after he started seeing another woman (which only lasted a few months). It was hard but I got over it and we became friends a...

A.   26 February 2009: Hi I am 20 year old guy and no I do not think that your being mean or anything I think that your right to be worried and mad. I think if did not want you to be uncomfortable at the friends place then he should ask you if you want to go and then on ... (read in full...)

Does this mean I could still be pregnant?

Q.   Ok so on february 16th, my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex. On february 18th i took the morning after pill. And now today i just got my period. It is right on schedule, neither early or late. Does this mean that i still might be pregnant...

A.   26 February 2009: I am 20 years old I have had a girl take the morning after pill the next day but I don't think you are but I would ask a professional doctore your 18 so they can't talk to anyone about it even to your parents just talk to a doctore ... (read in full...)

He is very good at running away and hiding!

Q.   Everytime he gets angry over anything he runs and hides for days, even weeks. he is very good at running away and he admits it. What to do with this behavior...

A.   26 February 2009: If he is shy to talk about his feelings try to do it over the phone most people feel safer that way I hope this helps please let me know ... (read in full...)

He dumped me because I nagged too much. Is it too late?

Q.   Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I have never been in your shoes well couse I am a 20 year old guy. But my advise is to just call him up and tell him that you like him so much and the only reason that you nag is to get his attition. You don't know what you would do without him ... (read in full...)

Size and performance anxiety during sex!

Q.   I have had substantial anxiety developing related to my marriage and sex. I was a little bit anxious when we were first married because we did not have sex with each other until we were married. I was rather anxious over size and performance, ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay bro any guy should never feel this way I am 20 years old I am going to tell you some of my secrets I hope this helps The actual act of eating out a woman usually concentrates on the vagina and clitoris and also the stimulation of her G spot. ... (read in full...)

Should I just try to get to know her more on Facebook?

Q.   I need some help with a woman i like. She is still in highschool. this is her last year. And i really don't ever talk to her that much. the only time i do is on facebook. But we have known each other when we were little kids and i know a lot of her ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay first I am 20 years old and I say no that is not a stupid idea it seems like to me ah might like you but is just bizy in fact try and get her cell so that tall can text or talk more often and I aint shure what kind of girl she is but if she ... (read in full...)

My husband has become obsessed with bullying

Q.   I'm a 25 year old businesswoman and my husband's 26, and works in training. and we earn good money, and have a good social life, and are well-liked in our social circle. In the past few weeks, however, my husband's become obsessed with bullying. N...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay it sounds to me like he is a great guy but he is obsessed with this it maybe something from when he was younger maybe he was bullied when I was young ask him why this is so inportant to him just be their for him and just let him know that you ... (read in full...)

I'm 27 and not interested in sex

Q.   Why do i feel like this? Im 27 and not interested in sex! I have a gorgeous boyfriend of almost 2 yrs and we have a beautiful 8 month old daughter. I do feel tired a lot what with lookin after my daughter all day so maybe thats why, but even when im ...

A.   26 February 2009: I am a 20 year old man and no their is nothing wrong with you you are still recovering from the babby and your very tired its not that you don't love or find your husband intiment or sexual its just that your tired and its the last thing on your ... (read in full...)

How far should I go on this first hang out session?

Q.   I'm recently single from a 5 year relationship with a guy I planned on marrying. I'm 20 years old. I met this guy that is the brother of one of my friends. He's really nice and sweet and we've hung out twice since I met him in a group. Well, on ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I am 20 years old I am 165 and benching around 240 I am well built so I have had girls before and I am smart I get $6000 a month but anyways I think that it is best to take it slow and you trying a lot will tell him that either that you care or ... (read in full...)

Did I make a mistake by being easy?

Q.   I've been emailing this man from a personal ad he had advertised online that I responded to. We've been corresponding since the beginning of February. Made out a couple of times, today I had sex with him. He's not interested in a relationship. Did I ...

A.   26 February 2009: You know it sounds like to me that you just want a good relationship and believe me you sound like a great girl and I am 21 I am 165 benching in around 245 6 foot tall a well built guy and I make 6000 a month and i have had sex 4 times and I can't ... (read in full...)

Ex-girlfriend problems

Q.   My girlfriend of 3 years recently broke up with me. To give some background on the situation...We both are from and went to school in NYC (and both plan on staying there). She is still a senior and I graduated from college last year. For this year, ...

A.   26 February 2009: I am 20 years old And yes I think that distance can have something to do with it what it seems like to me is that she is stressed pi and I am not on her side of this but she should not broke up with you I think that she just hase this guy as a fuck... (read in full...)

She dumped me and then gets a job at my work!

Q.   What do I do? My girlfriend dumped me less than a week ago. It was a complete shock, she said she loved me and gave no sign of leaving right until the moment she admitted to cheating on me during the last 3-days. It is very painful, I thought I ...

A.   26 February 2009: Lol I am sorry man this exact thing happend to me the best thing that I can tell you is that talk to the boss and tell him that you want a shift change and if she does not want back together then it will be hard to get over her couse you c her every ... (read in full...)

AT 13, should we have sex?

Q.   im 13 and so is my boyfriend.we are really deeply in love with each other.we have been going out for 4 in a half months.we both want to but should we have sex ?...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I am a 20 year old man and I am straight so don't get me wrong but I am very cautious about sex this will be your first time I say no I lost myn at 18 in highschool at the age at 13 your still in school if something happend you would not be ... (read in full...)

I'm losing feelings for my g/f and interested in my friend

Q.   I've been with my current girl friend for four years, mostly happy times. Lately, however, we seem to get into more arguments and almost every time we do she immediately jumps to the "should we break up" phrase as a solution. I know this seems ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay first off I am 20 years old Most people say that oppisets attract as long as it is not to far apart well love nows no boundries and if you really like you friend before you break up with the girlfriend make shure your friend actually likes yo... (read in full...)

Will he get tired of me sending sexy pictures to him?

Q.   Fwb, i am female and he is a male we were messing around with each other and i had my hand downstars and i was playing with my hand there and put it back but a bit too hard and i hurt him a little i know i should be a bit more carfull and i said ...

A.   26 February 2009: Okay I am 20 years old I am 175 a big weight lifter and I think that's hot and as long as he has unlimited phone use I do not think we will get tired and send it to him before he gets off so he will want to come home sooner hope this helps ... (read in full...)

My wife feels sex is nasty

Q.   I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...

A.   26 February 2009: It is hard for me to answer this I am 20 not married but ask her why she feel this way and make shure that she know that she is not nasty tell her that she is gorgeous and let her know that if she does not want to do it now well then tall can work ... (read in full...)

Did I make a mistake by confronting the woman I suspect had an affair with my hubby?

Q.   Ok, a few years ago I think my husband had a affair with his cousin's wife who is also my best friend. I never caught them in the act but my instinct tells me something was going on. Signs after signs like she knew things about him before I did or ...

A.   26 February 2009: Well I have to say gut says something is going well then most of the time then it did happen and about your friend well then if she does not want to confront you well then something happend or else she would have nothing to hide and the next time ... (read in full...)

I want him to be happy but am I wrong to ask for a little bit more attention than him simply sitting next to me?

Q.   My fiance came to the UK a year ago and has been unhappy in his job for a longtime with the commute and the stress etc and I have been there to support him and try and cheer him up. Recently he has started a new project in his spare time which he is ...

A.   26 February 2009: No your not wrong to get more attention I am a guy I am 20 so the guy probably loves you very much but is just worried about the job just be honest. Honesty is the best thing in a relationship just tell him that you miss him in the bedroom and ... (read in full...)

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