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writes:I'm 14, soon to be 15, and my mom loves to act like I'm still five. I want to be put on birth control, not because I'm having sex but to regulate aunt flow. But I know If I ask my mom will automaticly skip to conclusions, and start yelling at me for having sex. What should I do? How should I go about telling her, so hurtful things are not said? Please and thanks for helping!
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reader, ChelsieSue +, writes (28 April 2010):
 i'm 15, almost 16, but i got on the pill when i turend 15. and my situation was exactly the same, i promise you, my mom didnt react at all like i expected. i thought she would throw me in the basement and never let me out. but suprisingly, she under stood. my period was always irregular. so she toook me to get it. and now that i do have sex, she is happy that she did when she did, so i'm fully protected against prgnancy.(with a condom too, of course) haha, hope i gave you the advice you wanted:))
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reader, bad romaance  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Hi okay i see ho you would think this .. i was similar tooSee i wanted to go on the pill too to regulate my priod because it always came unexpectedly and it was a nightmare so i thought of going on the pill. I was going to do it without telling my mam because i knew she would jump to conclusions seeing as i have a boyfriend but were in no rush for sex, anyway i decided to ask her i was soo nervous and i made my friend come with me when i asked her ... so i did and she said no at first and said that im not allowed to have sex ??? ha but then i explained and she said okay but she kept putting it off so i said i would go to the dictors on my own because i knew she wouldnt bring me, her excuse was then that my doctor would not give it to me because im only 17 but in ireland the legal age is 16 to go to the doctors on your own for anything. I coturdicted her and went to my doctors and she prescribed me the pill , i havent began to take it yet though as i am waiting on my period and god knows when that will be? anyway just ask there would be no harm in asking your mam you never no she could react completely different then what you expect her to .. my mam was grand with it now that its gotten. Maybe do what i did too and bring a friend she might go easier on you :) Good luck :) Shauna x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): Many clinics will help you, yes, but several will require adult approval from a guardian. On top of that, even if you did go to a clinic and get birth control pills for regulating menses your mother will likely find out about them in some way and then you have not only her jumping to conclusions but you having secrets. Try doing some research online about what you are looking for in a birth control. Keep track of your menses with a calendar. There are many great online tools for this or you can use a paper one. Keep track of light and heavy flow days and the frequency. After 2 or 3 months you should have enough physical evidence to show your mother that this is a genuine concern for you. Then write down your thoughts in a letter to your mother explaining your feelings and asking for her advice and her help. Putting it in a letter will prevent you from becoming overemotional at her first knee-jerk reaction and give her a chance to take in what you are saying.
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