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36-40,
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writes:Hi,I have a problem with my Girlfriend of 4 years.I'm 21 now and we've been together for 4 years... We've had arguments before, but who hasn't...Our relationship was stressed by me going to university but we have managed to get through it until now, mainly by me coming home most nights of the weeks and only staying when I absolutely had to...But just this weekend I went to Reading festival and my GF couldn't make it... I thought she didn't have a problem with me going as she was having a party with friends the night I was away and was working during the day!But when I arrived I got a phonecall from her in tears and she said it was over... This really ruined my day / weekend but there was nothing I could do about it so I figured I would wait till I got home the following day to sort things out...But I didn't hear from her again that day, and when I called her in the morning she told me she had gone out with my best friend's girlfriend and kissed, danced and swapped numbers with another lad...Obviously this was gutting for me, she said it didn't mean anything and as far as she was concerned we weren't together!!! And she doesn't want to lose me... I'm sure she hasn't done this before, but it's still gutting!! How can she do something like that so easily after 4 years???!!I don't know what to do or think, I still lover her loads, but think maybe I should just knock it on the head.... But 4 years is a long time to throw away!Thanks for your Time!Dan.
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reader, Dan21 +, writes (30 August 2007):
Hey,I Agree with both of you, thats the problem...All I know is it hurts less to be together, so thats the way I've gone for now....I still havent kissed her, that feels too weird, but we're chatting again and spendin time together.Think I'm gonna see how things go until I go back to uni, where If I do decide to end things I'll have plenty of stuff to keep me busy!Thanks Guys.
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reader, Dan21 +, writes (30 August 2007):
Hey,I Agree with both of you, thats the problem...All I know is it hurts less to be together, so thats the way I've gone for now....I still havent kissed her, that feels too weird, but we're chatting again and spendin time together.Think I'm gonna see how things go until I go back to uni, where If I do decide to end things I'll have plenty of stuff to keep me busy!Thanks Guys.
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Dont let the four years of time keep you tethered to a person. She quite easily went right after another guy even before you two were broken up a solid week. I'd really scrutinize her behavior then decide what to do. So what you went somewhere without her. You cant be joined to the hip forever and she cant be pissed at that. If she ended it so quickly let her deal with the pain of her decision. As for you, you'll have to decide if what she did shows what type of character she had and if that is someone you want to be with (when they don't get their way).
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): if you love her then you'll get past this. its a hitch and it must be hurtful to you but its not such a big deal that you should throw away the whole relationship. make sure you find out why she ended it in the first place. it was probably just some silly confusion. i hope you sort things out
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