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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Aunts,I love my boyfriend of seven years fully. Yet, there's a married man after me. He drops by where I work weekly and always talks with me. He brings me gifts mostly every time and says he simply likes our conversations. I keep telling him he's married and I have a boyfriend. But he insists he's only being friendly. He always gives me his number and I would throw it away but this time I kept it. I want to text him and at the same time I don't. My boyfriend knows about him and we both laugh at his attempts but I feel like I may have become interested. Could him and me truly just be friends? I love my boyfriend so why do I want to call this man? I think it's maybe just all the gifts? What do I need to do Aunts? Please, help me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 February 2015):
 I love my husband. Truly. Things suck with us in our marriage right now. IF he asked for a divorce I'd grant it truly. But I love him. Madly.
If a single available guy came up to me right now at work and gave me gifts and his phone number and paid attention to me I would say I have a husband too. I would also refuse any gifts (other than something being offered to all co-workers) and I would not even bother to accept his number. ("here's my number" NO THANKS I HAVE NO NEED TO CONTACT YOU")
I would not (even as miserable as things are right now) EVER consider having any contact with the guy outside of work.
The fact that you are considering it tells me that SOMETHING IS WRONG SOMEWHERE..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2015): Girl stop the press you don't love your boyfriend cuz first of all you wouldn't take gifts from a married man he is off limits and you know that.You boyfriend should leave and don't play this immature game somebody is bound to get hurt.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 February 2015):
 STOP accepting the gift, STOP the flirting and playing coy, toss out his number.
If you are NO longer happy with your LONG TERM BF, then end that relationship. Having these little fantasy "relationships" or emotional affairs WILL not make your relationship more exciting or stronger.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (17 February 2015):
 You would not be interested if everything was fine with your boyfriend. Work on your relationship with your boyfriend and sort out whatever needs sorting out.
In the meantime, maybe your boyfriend could phone this man and have a "friendly" chat with him.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (17 February 2015):
 If you really love your boyfriend then you should go NO CONTACT with this married man. He is trouble - and if you stupidly pursue an affair with him - you will ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and if his wife finds out, and don't for one minute think that she wont find out - destroy her and her marriage.
How would you feel if some woman was chasing after your boyfriend?
This man is a player and you would be another one of his conquests - is that what you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2015): You like the gifts and the extra attention. You're being greedy and selfish. Just cut it out!
The gifts are meant to draw your attention, by luring you with bait. It's a trap. He's placing temptation in your path in order to weaken your resistance, little by little.
Why would you take something from someone, then laugh at them?
Well, when this is all over; you'll be the one crying!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2015):
 Why do you want to call or text this married man? Do you really have to ask?
You must be very bored of your seven years of dating and are waiting for the boyfriend to decide to commit.
Now, you have some right to this, if you are 22 then you started dating your boyfriend at age 15 and so have never had the chance to date and get to know other men.
I think you don't really know what loving a man fully is yet. You want to love your boyfriend in that way but if this rather pathetic and obvious ploy by a married man is making you want to emotionally cheat on your boyfriend then you aren't fully committed.
I think you need to break up with your boyfriend. I also think you should avoid the hell out of the married man, because if you are so easily swayed by a few gifts then you do need to get a wake up call from Mrs. Reality. Who would tell you that getting involved with Mr. MarriedMan will lead to a lot of...
nothing.... oh, wait, no that's not exactly right, you could have an exciting 30-60 minutes of hot and sweaty sex until he zips up his trousers and races home to Mrs MarriedtoMarriedMan. Then you'll have many many more hours of not being with Mr MM, who will be home with Mrs MtMM, having sex with her too and stoking the home fires that keep them together.
It's a losing proposition.
Did your father cheat on your mother, by any chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2015): So here is goes. Please read carefully. 1-You text him 2- He will work on you so you get closer ,Oh he is so charming isn't he! , 3- You go out ,probably more gifts 4- He will get in to your pants 5- you have already fallen for this married player 5- You wake up with a ruined relationships with your boyfriend, married guy is gone by the way!. Do yourself a favor and even don't think about it. You shouldn't accept any gift from him. Just cut all the contacts and be serious so he doesn't think he has chance!
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