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writes:my girlfriend of 8 months recently broke up,due to me telling her if she did not trust me to move on. she is very insecure. she slept with a person 2 nights in a row and says he showed her the attention she was wanting. she will not talk to me for no reason at all now. what do i do about situation, because we were in love.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (30 December 2007):
 You told her to move on if she didn't trust you.
She did what you told her to do and now you want to know why she did that?!
Two things.
Aparently you weren't giving her much attention, and aparently she doesn't trust you. What do you think? Doc
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Was your girlfriend super insecure or was there an event that made her not trust you. In my opinion, the relationship wasn't secure if it couldn't withstand her not trusting you (again, why?)to the point where she left you and was immediately with some other guy. That's not love, that's some kind of dependence.
You seem to be a confident, aloof kind of guy and if she was insecure the two of you do not make a good match. Find a confident woman who isn't so needy.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Sometimes when you tell your girlfriend to move on they will take it literally and actually take you up on it. Consider this a hard lesson learned. What you could have done is give her the attention she wanted instead of scorning her. When she slept with this guy it was wrong, but it was also a cry for help....instead of responding with love, you cast her asside. Yes, cheating is a hard thing to forget and forgive...and you may have played it right for your own conscience, but in her eyes, right or wrong..she wanted more from you than you were willing to give.
In my opinion you DID play it right, but the consequences were that inevitably she just wasn't happy with your relationship, and as she proved, needed to go elsewhere.
You should also consider yourself lucky...at least you weren't married with kids to her. She has shown you her stripes. The hard part now is letting go. She is not worthy of you. Its time to be an adult now, accept what she did and move on.
Good luck in the future.
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Yes, i think maybe it is time to move on. If she does not trust you then the relationship would go nowhere should you get back together. As she does not want to talk to you it seems that she has chosen to move on herself.
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (29 December 2007):
This guy obviously could show her something you couldnt. hate to briong bad news but thats what it sounds like. Its hard when you feel truly in love and then she finds someone else. It hurts. But if you care about her happiness then you should be glad that shes found someone that she can feel secure with. This just opens you up for a relationship with a girl who feels secure with you
best of luck
xx
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