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writes:It's a familiar teenage girl tale, my best friend and I are incredibly close; we've only known each other a few years but it feels like forever! There's no one else in the world I feel as close to; I can tell her anything and she's the same with me.I've been bi for a while now and not had it easy, and she's straight but very accepting of me. I also have a habit of falling for people easily, and even though I hate to think about it as it feels wrong, I've think I've fallen for my best friend...We text and Skype ALL the time, late into the night even, we tell each other we love each other all the time and have those adorable arguments over who loves the other more :P We also spend a lot of time hugging, and it feels like she doesn't want to let go. She has half-jokingly asked me to move in with her a lot.She's a year older than me and is leaving for uni in September, and I know I'm going to miss her an unbearable amount, and she's already broken down to me a few times about leaving, saying she's terrified of being so far from me.I'm totally confused and hurt because we ARE so close, and I'm scared of actually being so in love with her. When we're alone together it feels amazing and we get pretty close to each other physically, but I know I could never kiss her no matter how right it feels at that moment in time. I don't want to tell her, but I feel this is the only thing I'm keeping from her. I know she wouldn't mind, but I'd still feel things would never be quite the same.What do I do?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (4 January 2011):
 It sounds like you have a great friendship with her, would you really want to swap what you have for something different?
I understand that you feel like you want to tell her but do you want to change the relationship you have.
If you feel that you really need to tell her then that is your decision and i would suggest that you tell her how you feel but you understand that she may not feel the same way and that is oki as you dont want to not have her as a friend.
Hope this helps =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
One thing I didnt mention is that she's never spoken about her own sexuality before, apart from her past boyfriends and crushes. I helped her through her last breakup and get over someone else recently. She's never given me any clues she might be bi or bi-curious.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (4 January 2011):
 hi
well she knows you're bi so unless she is in love with you too she needs to take more care about what she is saying and doing or else this means she is giving you mixed signals and confusing you. maybe she does love you as more than a friend. maybe, knowing that your bi, she feels its ok to 'flirt' with you and see, maybe just for her own curiosity how far she can take the situation. there really is only one person who knows what is going on in her head and how she feels about you, so you can either ask her about her feelings or you can carry on as you are now, and see if she comes any further to you in the future
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