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36-40,
*exguy4
writes:Im in quite the predicament someone please help me. I have been talking to this girl (will call her M) for 11 or so months, she had a boyfriend off and on up until a month and a half ago. We would have streaks where we would talk and spend time together every day then periods where we would only talk every 3 days(she changed her phone number and would call me from a restricted so the 3 day thing was her choice). I stuck around, I truely felt like there could be something. When she changed her number I made the inebriated mistake of sleeping with someone. After her prying about a month ago(i was not completely forth coming with it i avoided the truth on natural reaction) she found out. I told her that girl was the only girl besides her that i had been with in as many months. Then tonight she found out that after one of the many times we stopped talking(around a month before i confessed of the other girl) beyond the 3 day usual i started talking to another girl briefly and slept with her, but dropped her as soon as M began being interested. The problem is we were actually finally getting serious her x-boyfriend was "truly" out of the picture and only 4 days in she found out about the 2nd girl and says she is done and could never trust me. I no Im not totally in the wrong because we were not dating during these incidents and she actually lived with her x until month and a half ago. How do I prove to her she can trust me and fix this. Oya and she said she was done shes returning to her x... who she left for me... someone help
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reader, AuntieGeorgia  +, writes (18 January 2010):
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That Is quite a tricky situation.
For girls commitment, trust and honesty are three of the most important things in a relationship, however the fact that you werent in a relationship at the time makes all the more complicated.
Theres no guarantee that she will want to have a relationship with you after this but if you really care about this girl then you need to try everything you cant to get her back, which includes no more sleeping with girls.
I think the best way to gain her trust again is to become her friend just show her how much of a lovely person you are, try to show how sorry you are then when you two are good friends again then maybe that the time to explain your feelings.
I hope I helped,
Good luck x
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