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*nfinishedSymphony
writes:About 3 months ago I got immensely hammered (drunk) and lost all my limits completely. My friend had recently split up with his girlfriend, however i'd been single for quite a while. His ex girlfriend was my best friend. I've always had suspicions about him, heard things from other people about him (like he was mad about me the whole time he was going out with my best friend). So that night we slept together. It was so out of character for me, I have no feelings for him whatsoever...and from that night because he was rather sober, i've resented him and totally lost contact with him. I know I cant blame him for it...but in a way i feel like i can? I wouldnt of done it if it wsnt for the alcohol. Recently hes been trying to re add me numerous times on facebook, texting me quite alot, being malicious about me to others ect. ect. I also am aware that hes manic depressive. I just want to crawl out of this situation that should never of happened!What happens if he tells my best friend??I don't want to hurt her...even though she was the one who dumped him...its her ex and thats a no no!!Hes starting to freak me out and wont leave me alone. what should i do? He really isnt the norm. trust me.
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 First of all if you think he's going to tell his ex/your best friend the best thing to do is pre-empt him. It would be a lot nicer hearing it from you rather than hearing him using it maliciously.
Also, if you feel your safety is being threatened by this guy I would contact the local authorities. You might feel a little bit akward about it, but you're not the first person to go through something like this, nor will you be the last so they will have some experience in dealing with this sort of matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): We all do things on alcohol that we wouldn't normally do. Especially if we are lonely!
But if this guy is bothering you, get a restraining order. from what you say, he could be dangerous!
Please be careful!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 It is okay if you were once or twice indiscrete, we all do that in our teens. But if this guy is any kind of threat to you, report him to the local authorities without hesitation. Get your concern registered.
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