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writes:Why am I so angry at him? Is not his fault is it?So I asked my boyfriend about his ex and he told me everything about her and he asked if I wanted to see a picture of her and I said yeah sure but I bet she's not prettier than me and he said no she's not.He didn't want to send the picture but I kept asking so he sent it.I'm prettier than her but her body is amazing. She has a tiny body with nice curves whereas I'm chubby with a pretty face:(I feel so upset. I use to work out regularly but I stopped . and now I've lost my confidence I guess I need to get back to the gym.I feel kinda angry at him though even though is not his fault he didn't want to show me but I begged him so he sent the pictures.He has her on his Facebook and I don't want to be jealous and controlling so I won't ask to block her.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (3 January 2014):
You got what you asked for. Deal with it.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (2 January 2014):
Get over it!
You are his girlfriend not her....you are the one in control of who you are, what you look like and more importantly your attitude. Stop looking at her.
Good Luck!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (2 January 2014):
 There is always someone 'better' than or 'uglier' than you on this planet. Fact is the person you're with has a past with different types of women. Its odd that you'd think of people as 'uglier' or 'better' than you. You're causing problems within yourself all because of a picture you forced out of him (your man) . . . Now you're gonna change your life around the body of an ex of the guy you're with!? I'm sorry but i find that ridiculous. If you do anything life changing it should be for YOU and only because you want to better yourself for health reasons or any other valid reasons. As honeypie said, he is with you, not her. If he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't be which tells us what? Obviously he isn't really obsessed with vanity and looks like you are or he would run off with someone with the body that you consider 'amazing' and leave you. BUT he is with you! He is with you! Howmany more times can i say that?Don't let a picture of someone else dim your self confidence. If you want to gym then gym but do it for YOU, not because of a guy or some pic of his ex but because of you. Don't let this bother you. There's billions of people in this world, there's bound to be someone who looks how you wish you looked. If everyone dwelled on that where would we all be? How would we all feel about ourselves? Even that ex of his that you envy has her imperfections. Life goes on regardless
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reader, cupidlover89 +, writes (2 January 2014):
It doesn't matter who is better looking or skinnier or smarter, a man is committed to the women he likes and connects with. He is not with her is he? She is an ex for a reason and now you are with him. Which means he thinks you are the best not her. So who cares what she looks like, she was not good enough for him, and you are!
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reader, vanillafrost  +, writes (2 January 2014):
 Hello,
You're a little bit insecure but I don't think you can be mad at him for showing you the picture because you asked for it... Sorry
What you can do is go to the gym perhaps to boost your self esteem and I wouldn't worry too much about his ex. At the end of the day, he is with YOU and not with her. She an ex and looks are not all that matter! I bet he likes your personality much more than hers(personality is way more important in the long run)and that is why it did not work out with her and he is with you.
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 January 2014):
 That is all on you and ALL in your head.
IS he with her or with you? You, right? So what is the problem? She isn't allowed to have a better body then you? But It's OK if her face is "uglier"?
Serious, girl you need to get a grip on your vanity.
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