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30-35,
*teel stake
writes:So, one thing has been driving me crazy lately. I am 21 years old and I have yet to find the girls around me as individuals that I want to date. It seems that the dating experience has changed drastically since the last 20 years. I watch and listen to romance entertainment and find that the way of the "Romeo and Juliet" saga is the way that I want to meet my companion. I am sincerely tired of the meeting girls on twitter and facebook as ways to become internally satisfied with relationships. Most of the girls around me are complaining about past relationships while the guys around me have drools around their chops for a girl waiting to date them. Is this it? Really? Will I never run into a girl at the perfect chance and moment and find that connection that is indescribable? Will I never find that girl that has me smelling her perfume days after she has vanished? Am I wrong for wanting this? I just do not feel satisfied with fucking girls all the time and then l calling them the next time I feel my hormones are craving. This is not what I want. I have done these things in the past and stopped because I realized it was pointless and was not only harming my own emotions and mentality but the psychological wealth of these girls as well even though they provoked this behavior. All I can think about is looking into my companions eyes and realizing that she is truly the one. No doubts, no recollections of the past harms, just certainty, a calm definitive. I have to meet the "right" person, if not, let me know please. This way I can focus on other things and give up on what I looked forward too so much in life, love. This is not a concept that was made by the media and advertising companies, they just brainwashed us to feel this way. Buy her a car, ring, chocolate, flowers, wear axe, wear this cologne. This will attract your soul mater, if not, at least you will seduce her... I guess I would just like to know your opinions on this. I did not mean to come off as a jack-ass and I apologize if I did. Is what I am searching for wrong? Am I wrong for not settling and selling out? How do I find it? How do I come off as a person who wants this? Thanks to all who have read this post, appreciate you cupids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2015): I felt like you 20+ years ago. The world hasn't changed a much as you might think.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (25 November 2015):
I think there are a lot of girls around that feel much like you and would love to have you in their lives. Your description is a bit idealistic but there is nothing wrong with that. It has a nice Hollywood flair to it.
You are only 21. You have lots of time. You'd worry me if you said you'd just met the woman of your dreams. Just get out and meet people and make yourself available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2015): I like your question because it's exactly how I feel too. And I agree it feels 'not the norm' these days unfortunately. Although only 2 months ago I thought I had potentially met 'the one', we clicked, were on the same wavelength, talked for hours on the phone, and both admitted we had an emotional connection. It was amazing. But I got broken up with, and I don't understand why. This person has given me the hope that there are other like minded people out there, so don't give up on what you truly want, I say.
You are only young anyway, you have years to meet someone, just be true to yourself :)
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