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writes:Me and my ex got back in contact September last year we split as he started too work away more then me finding out he met someone else and had a kid with her.Long story cut short he has split with this girl and we have started hitting things off again.He's been on a weekend away with myself and my daughter and has been coming down every weekend for a day and when he's not working sometimes on a weekday... Anyway we still haven't actually had sex im not too fussed about it really but my friend says its strange ? We always hug and kiss goodbye when he leaves and im actually happy with that atm ??Anyway yesterday I msg him asking what he actually thought of me... I've asked him before and he said would send by email which I said ok don't tell me then..Yesterday I asked him again what he thought or liked about me and his msg bk too me was 6 emoji faces with a zip going through it I replied with a sad face.Yes he comes down 2 see me and my daughter every week but I think this not telling me is bugging me more now then I thought.Maybe he just really doesn't find me attractive or likes me at all.Is there any other ways i could approach this question too him again? I don't really know how else too go about it ??.Many thanks Sara lou
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (7 August 2017):
You should ask those questions in person, and have a honest answer from him. Ask him what he thinks about you, and anything you want to know from him. If you want to have sex with him, take the initiative, and start sex. If he rejects you, ask him why doesn't he wants to have sex with you.It's hard to tell what are his reasons, but you need to know what's going on, because if you are in an exclusive relationship, you need to be honest of what to expect from him and what he expects from you.Best luck!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (5 August 2017):
 This isn't a question you ask out loud. You know whether someone loves you by the way they treat you. Actions speak louder than words don't they say.
Why do you think he keeps coming to see you? Is it because of your cooking? Is it because he likes to use your hot tub? Is it because your collection of Indonesian postage stamps from the early twentieth century is the most complete he has seen? Probably not.
He keeps coming because he is attracted, but perhaps he is also trying to fill a gap in his life.
If the ties between you were such that he could walk away before, then do you think things can be any better now? Think carefully about this.
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reader, Showdeekay  +, writes (5 August 2017):
I would ask him person..that way he can't really get out of it with a lame excuse. He obviously likes you in some form to be spending so much time with you. It is a little strange that he doesn't want sex as let's face it..most men do..however. He could just want to be taking it slow. My bf tells me he loves me all the time..but when I ask whqtvdoes he love about me ..he said idk
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