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writes:I split up with my ex of 5 years over trust issues I had and the fact we could not handle arguments well. He never cheated on me but did things like texting his ex at 3am which to me came close. After we split, I got together with a work colleague. He was everything I wanted and we moved in after 6 months. All went well until my ex and I got back in touch. 1 year on I am going out with both of them and this situation is all I think about. I love my 'ex' and not the one I live with, although he is a much better person. I worry how it will affect work if we split. If I move out and commit to a relationship with my 'ex' I wander if I will ever trust him and if he will get over the fact that I lived with someone else. My friends are great and have helped but don't do 'advice' . I need this to end one way or another, before I get 'caught' and the decision is out of my hands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Break up with the guy you are living with as you cheating on him. By your own admission he is a great guy and as such should be treated with respect and be deserving of a great girl...not the likes of you.
For you something like texting at 3AM is cheating, and yet you ACTUALLY cheat. I think you should stay away from both of them. You don't deserve either.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 My advice in situations revolving around an ex is to keep the ex in your past and move on. There are very few success stories of people who have gotten back together with their ex. Most of the time it ends for the same reason it did the first time. It also is not fair what you're doing to your new guy. I'd suggest you end it with both of them and do some soul searching. You've been juggling a web of lies. Either fess up or end it.
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