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writes:So, I need a little bit of advice...hope you can help!!!I've been with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years (i'm 25 and she's 22) and we've started to buy a house (nothing official yet) but i've come to realise that i might not be able to live with her because...i'm not perfect (obviously) but she is demanding...dictating...selfish...and stubborn!!!We had a months break at the end of last year (her idea) and seemed to get back on track - but it is me this time that needs space.There is more too though...someone else - someone that makes me very happy when i see her and wants more than friendship..only she is 17!!!Advice please...if yuo can help i'd appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006): I'm curious what happened with you and these two girls as of now. Does that 17 year old know how you feel? And is this break between you and your girlfriend partly because of this other romantic interest? I mean, of course, even 5 year long relationships do come to an end. But what matters really is who you end up with, and if YOU'RE happy.
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reader, Gryphon +, writes (26 April 2006):
 Just before you abandon ship ask yourself if this 17 year old isn't just a passing crush. If you've stuck it out for more than 5 years with your girlfriend and were willing to buy a house with her then there was obviously some feeling there (or you managed to suffer silently for a very long time). If it all comes down to her nagging and pestering I would say tell her and see if she's willing to try and change – if not, then maybe it is time to look for someone else.
My only concern is that you do something irreversible without fully understanding why you want to do it. Do some soul-searching first and make sure you are absolutely at whit's end before you alter your life completely and destroy everything you have. Five years is a lot of time to simply let vanish without knowing exactly why you want to end it.
Best of luck,
~Jake~
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reader, willywombat +, writes (25 April 2006):
 Get out now. These doubts have started to surface for a reason and do you want to be stuck with a mortgage AND a gf you really don't love very much or respect either from what you are saying.
Leave and do the decent thing before you move on to the next girl!
Good luck
xx
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