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writes:I had a interview and I was given a tour of the place and met this VERY VERY VERY CUTE GUY who told me about the area he works in etc.. which is the area i would be in if i get the job... well he came out the back area, with such confidence as he was just cheesing and grinning like you wouldn't believe when he seen me, his face LIT up... i was already told his name, but he introduced himself too me with pleasure n shook my hand still smiling... and when the convo was done, he said again it was a pleasure to meet u while still smiling... he is very very intelligent basically my perfect man... welp, im hoping I get the job because I would LOVE to date him... anyway I was thinking if I don't get the job, should I send him an email but itll be sent to his work email since I don't know anything about him... and make a move..or should I make a move now vrs me waiting if I get the job.... I think he liked what he seen, as did i... whats your take?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2018): How do you even know if he is your 'perfect' man by just one meeting and barely exchange of words?
Well I guess in answer to your question - you can make your move once you get hired for the job and see him on a regular daily basis... IF he doesn't have a girlfriend already.
I would leave things up to fate if you don't get the job. You know where he works... hang out around there during lunch and see if you bump into him.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 December 2018):
 I had to re-check your age... I thought you were a teenager with that attitude!
Seriously! You do not TROLL your workplace or potential work place for CUTE guys and potential dates!
The ONLY time (in this scenario) I think you COULD contact him is if you DO NOT get the job.
I mean can you even imagine what your OTHER coworkers will think of you if you START chasing MEN at the work place before you have even gotten the job?
And like mentioned already romance is the work place is RARELY a good idea. Sure, some people meet that way and it turns out OK, but most of the time it doesn't. It just makes things AWKWARD for everyone.
This guy could be married, have a GF already and just ENJOY being the "office Casanova" - that might ACTUALLY be why he does the "tours" because he has a charming personality.
You both need to grow up. It sounds like you were positively salivating over a guy, who is a total stranger, you know nothing about and whom you could be working with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2018): I double taked at your age, you sound like a teenager with a crush on someone. Err no it would be very unwise to email him with a personal message or to bother him if you get the job.
He could have simply been an upbeat kind of person and like that in general. Use your nogging, no don't, you will come across as being a dafty.
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reader, N91  +, writes (17 December 2018):
 I think it would be an extremely foolish decision to get involved romantically with someone at a potential workplace. I have lost count over the amount of questions we’ve seen like this one where people have broken up with their partner and have to see them at work everyday and they’re asking what they can do to get over their ex. A large portion of them debating whether to move job over the issue.
I would strongly advise against making a move because I think it would be less likely to work out than someone you don’t work with and if things went sour then you’re going to have to interact with your ex everyday whilst simeltaneously reying trying to get over them, it’s not going to work is it.
You’re at work to earn a living, not find a partner. Also as YCBS covered you don’t even know this guy, how’s he your perfect man?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (17 December 2018):
 Can't decide whether this is a wind up just to get a rise out of the aunts & uncles, or whether there are actually people like you out there.
IF this is serious, do you not hear how desperate you sound? In one sentence you say "I don't know anything about him" yet in another you call him your "perfect man". You know NOTHING about him except that he is personable with possible new employees. Let me tell you, when I went for an interview for a job years ago, the guy who was destined to be my supervisor spent some time showing me the company operating system. I came away thinking "What a lovely guy". Working with him turned out to be NOTHING like the short time I spent with him during my interview. He was being professional for that short time and turning on the charm. Later I found out what a jerk he really was. Let me reiterate: you know NOTHING about this man. He could be married, he could be gay, he could be a lot of things.
And let's not even start on what a bad idea it is to date work colleagues.
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