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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 years. the first year we where on and off and dating other people. We decided to be a steady couple about 2 years ago and things have been great. I love her, she is wonderful to me. through the summer we have not been together much, our jobs keep us seperated for weeks to a month at a time. this week, i went out to a bar and got drunk. I struck up a conversation with a woman that I know at the bar and later, as we walked to our cars we eneded up kissing passionately. I feel terrible. my girlfriend will be devastated. I want to relieve my guilt by telling her, but I dont want to hurt her. I want nothing to do with this other woman. should I tell my girlfired and risk hurting her and losing her and losing respect from all our friends, or should I deal with my guilt and make a silent pact to never do it again? which I never will! about six month ago, she was away for work and got drunk with a guy and danced and flirted with him and he kissed her. she refused to take it further with him and she did tell me and I was hurt but I forgave her. I think my incident is worse. any advice? what should I do. I feel like a horrible person!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): If I was your girlfriend, I wouldn't want to know. HOWEVER, if I did find out (even years later), it would be a deal breaker. (How's that for a catch 22?). If you KNOW for CERTAIN there is NO WAY your girl would ever find out. I wouldn't tell her. BUT, if you think the woman at the bar, or someone that knows what happened, could possibly EVER tell your girl-you should confess and make it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Learn from this mistake and keep it to yourself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 September 2010):
 May I just start off alcohol doesn't give you a free pass to do as you please. If you can't handle the alcohol, then don't drink and stay away from the bars, that goes for both of you. Don't go to bars and drink then you won't put yourself in this situation ever again. You're feeling guilty, at least you have a heart. I doubt you can keep silent on this one, she was out with her cheating (yes it's still cheating if you kiss someone) then you need to come clean as well. If she gets upset and breaks up with you then lesson learned. However, since you forgave her there's a very good chance she will forgive you and you two can work through this.
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