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51-59,
*onfusedme
writes:Hi I have a big question??? My husband of 13 years told me that he has been seeing prostitutes for 9 years.. Un- protected sex and the last one was Christmas day... Needless to say i'm in a state but the question is.... I can't get off the escort sites, I have planned and planned how to be an escort down to a web site etc... All day every free time i'm planning, even thougth about going and being on the street myself to see whats it like!!!! I know its an irrational response to what he's done to me but I just want to experience the feeling of a man wanting me, and choosing me!!!! Please has anyone been in this position before and does it help if you go into this business..???
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): Hi,
I feel your pain as i too have the same problem mine was using them for two years we were married 27 years it is such a shock and you feel will the pain ever go?
You are still in shock!! who would'nt be the love of your life has been going with other women SLUTS REMEMBER THATS WHAT THEY ARE SLUTS ! and that is so hurtful you do not want to ever go down that road please forget this it is a bad idea you will achieve more pain than want it is not a life a women of respect chooses to earn it is a dogs life no women should ever have to sell her body and the men who are using them are keeping this vile business going i have had it out with my hubby and he still can't tell me the reasons he did it we are going to couple counselling and he says it will come out then so i truly hope so or he will be in the scrap heap along with all the other rubbish!! Everyones situation is different i would never tell you what to do only you decide that i would only advice you PLEASE DO NOT BECOME A SLUT FOR NO MAN !! You deserve better tell yourself that every day and eventually you will get your self esteem back you are bruised right now as you have took a terrible kicking and you are so low that you feel you want to revenge this but please it would be the biggest mistake of your life turn this around to more positive thinking go find a new hobby join a gym a womens club the list is endless get out with people and mix with them their good vibes will rub off on you and you will start to heal maybe even have a laugh this sounds impossible right now but believe me it's not i am doing all these things and you need to too it will be good for your soul and well being trust me on this put all these escort thoughts at the back of your mind stop looking at the sites i did that too it eats away at you like a cancer stop it now!! Please and i will check back and see how you are doing take care and remember THINK POSITIVE AND THINK ABOUT YOU .
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 March 2007):
 Your more than welcome, anytime you need more advice please don't hesitate to send me a private message and i will try to help you the best i can.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Kenny I jusy wanted to say thank you. I posted not really expecting an answer, but I cried and cried when I read your reply, I sobbed so hard it was such a relief. I feel so isolated and can't talk to those around me for fear of breaking down. For the first time in months I slept last night and didn't wake up in a mad panic. Thank you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Dear "Confused Me",I think you truly are confused!!! Sounds like you want a little "revenge" to me. I know you are hurt and would like to kill the sob, but......think about what you are wanting to do!!!! First of all, I would get an AIDS test and then I would talk to friends, family, a therapist; anyone to help with the problem. When you go and make a decision as big as the one you are about to make there are alot of things to be considered and also alot of consequences. Like STD's, unwanted pregnancy, the possibility of being beaten silly, etc. Take Care of you and look inside yourself to see what it is you truly want! You need time to think this through and to heal from the shock and hurt, BEFORE you make any irrational choices. I'm sorry that the man you chose turned out to be such a loser, I feel sure you will find the "true Love" of your life in due time. Next time, watch and see how he treats the other women in his life, for example his mother, sister etc. Above all...get to know him before you commit and sleep with him!!! Good Luck and may you make the right choices!!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (5 March 2007):
Going into this business is a really really bad idea, i strongly advise you not to persue this avenue.
You are in turmoil because you found out your husband has been using prostitutes for nine years. Its natural for you to be deeply hurt by this.
You want to experience a man wanting you, but this is not the kind of want you are looking for, all these guys will want to do is use and abuse you, pay you then leave. Leaving you feeling dirty and used, this is no life for you.
Your husband was a jerk, you are better than this and you know it within your heart of hearts.
Whether you and your husband are going to stay together is
your own choice, only you can make that decision. But once again please don't persue this avenue, it is not worth it.
If you need further advice send me a message.
All the very best of luck,
xx
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