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*ant2goback
writes:I'm having a problem with my boyfriend whom i really love and at one time we felt like soul mates we would finish each others sentences, he made my heart skip a beat every time he called me or came around my heart would race. but like a dickhead i messed up? He asked me when we first started messing with each other if he gave me his heart will i take care of it and i said yeah we fell for each other quick because we had wanted each other for 2 years proior but just remainded friends, but anyway i kind of was still talking to my ex-boyfriend(not having sex just conversation)and he found out and waS HURT. i try to explain and have been trying to make it right for the last year but i think he still holds on to that situation , i think that i went about making it right in the wrong way, kind of became like his shadow and we were around eachother every day and now things have changed. he says he still wants to be together but i know some thing has changed i just want to go back to how things were when we were truly into each other.how do i? can somebody help me? don't want to lose my baby!!!!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Now you've got problems. Things were equal and now they are not cos you've got someone on the higher field who didn't do ne thing, and someone on the lower who did something, and is continually trying to make things right and make it up to him. You know I almost emailed one of my exs today, but then I realized that I don't want my husband talking to his ex's so I didn't.
Just give it time. Each time a situation like this arises again, tell him about it, and tell him about the GOOD decision you made in the situation this new time instead of the last time, for example, "So and so called me today, but I didn't pick up the phone or call him back." And keep doing this. Me and my husband are usually accountable to each other, even when we DIDN'T do anything, and I mean accountable as in telling what happened. He'll tell me if some girl hit on him that day, and what his response was.
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reader, Analdia +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Tings probably won't be the same like you want because your boyfriend really does care about you.So he took that serious and so would anybody else in this situation.That's why he tells you he wants to still be with you.Well you haven't lost him you just have to how him that you are all for him.But really you shouldn't have been talking to someone else.
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reader, bon  +, writes (12 September 2008):
hey, it seams like u too are a bit 'too close' ok well firstly you need to explain that you didnt mean any harm in it. if there is no trust then the relationship will not work. talking to ex boyfriends whilst seeing somebody is usually a no-go. give him some time to get to trust you again. obs he thought he could totally and it is a big shock to him and probably knocked hes self-confidence. good luck
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