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writes:I have known this girl for about 5 years. and we are really good friends. She has had boyfriends on and off in the time that i've known her but i've never thought to ask her out. I have been spending alot of time with her lately and we've been talking alot. We've become even closer. She says she loves me, i know i love her. She has a boyfriend at the moment and she says she would rather be with me. However sometimes i don't think this is true, i don't know what to do... Do i wait till she breaks up with this guy? or just let it go???
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 September 2008):
 In fact, I gotta better idea. Decide how long you want to wait, and give her an ultimatum. For example, if you are going to wait a month tell her, well I am going to wait a month for you, but then I am moving on, k?
If she starts spewing stuff like oh that's not fair, blah blah blah, don't let it get to you. If she truly loves you she will let this guy go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the help guys
Truth is i really don't want to let her go, cos she has been in my life my so long now. i think the reason why i haven't been dating much lately is because subconsiously i know there is a chance between her and I.
I'll have a chat with her about what she wants with me, relationship wise, and see what she says. Any more help would be great guys.
Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Speaking from experience sometimes breaking up and leaving your partner can be a very hard thing to do even when it is what you want. Worries of hurting the other person and how they might suffer can sometimes result in quite a bit of time passing before it actually happens. That of course may or may not be the case.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 September 2008):
Both. Wait for a certain time period, then let it go. You decide how long you want to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): well this isnt an answer but im in the same boat im with a guy that loves me very much i dont want to hurt him so stay with him but im in love with someone else that wants a chance with me or he says he does but i dont know if i can trust him to me hes a pretty boy and hes the type that always gets what he want i just have a feeling that once he gets me he wont want me anymore so im scared that in the end ill be left all along what just i do?
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reader, Analdia +, writes (12 September 2008):
 If she really cares about you,she would leave the guy for you.She is probably confused about who she wants to be with.You should ask her what she wants from you that she doesn't wants from him.I mean you obviously have something that the other gut doesn't.But he also has something that you don't have.So just ask her who she really wants to be with because she is trying to be unfaithful.Or she just can't let him go.My advice to you is if you're happy be happy but watch out for her.You might get hurt
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Personally I would say let it go.
If she loved you she would dump her boyfriend. Add to the fact that she has had many boyfriends in her past...well the signs are ominous.
In some ways I know how you feel...I used to completely fancy a girl that had had many boyfriends -- we too grew close for very complicated reasons that would take forever to explain. The short story is that I asked her out (against my better judgment)...it lasted barely a month.
If she loved you she would leave her boyfriend. Don't waste your time.
Take care
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reader, bon +, writes (12 September 2008):
at the moment concidering she is still with another bloke i think u should just wait. but dont dwell on it there are other girls out there too. if she wants u serioustly then she will end it. just wait and see what happens. good luck bab
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