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I have many times mistakely seen my sister changing clothes and I can't control my feelings, I want to have sex with my sister what shall I do?

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Question - (2 June 2007) 34 Answers - (Newest, 27 March 2008)
A male India age 22-25, anonymous writes:

hi i am a 17 year old guy. I have many times mistakely seen my sister changing clothes and I can't control my feelings, I want to have sex with my sister what shall I do?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

That is natural. It isn't a good idea to have sex with her though. 'A friend' of mine was having sex with his sister on and off for 7 years. Thank god she never got pregnant!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008):

Is your sister the first girl you have ever seen naked? This might explain why you want to have sex with her. Either that, or when you saw her changing clothes, you saw her in a way you had never seen her before, and you probably got sexually aroused from seeing her naked or partially naked. Some of this is just the normal raging hormones you have at your age.

I would try to focus on other girls and seeing them naked, or look at nude pictures of women in Playboy or other magazines to get your mind off your sister. Once you see pictures of other nude women, think about having sex with them, instead of your sister, and that should hopefully solve your problem.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

I'm 19 and I've had the same problem I've been attracted to my sister ever sense I can remember. When I was small I was touched by a friends brother when I spent the night. When you're small you trust nobody would ever do something like that to harm you because you don't know any better. Its pretty sad I know.

My best friend said that she was sexually molested as a child also. She once too had the same feelings for her brother not too long ago. But got over them because she found love in other places. My friend said It's only common if some one you TRUSTED fucked you over when you were small so you end up wanting that same sexual relationship with the person or a person you trust at this moment. ( aka your brother, sister, family member, friend, cuzion) any of those.

I'm sorry it happened to you if it did, I'm sorry it happened to me but it did. it's just the fucked up truth of reality we all have to deal with.

If something didn't happen to you when you were little and have always have been surrounded by kind loving caring people then I suggest you get some professional help quick. before you harm your self or others around you.

I hope this helps some of you out there that have the same problem I do. I hope you all find peace or an answer to your problems as I'm still hoping for mine.

Thanks for reading.

good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008):

My brother got the idea to knock a hole in the bathroom wall when we were younger. I, the horndog that I was, agreed. We both took turns, watching our 3 sisters, bath, shower and change. Until I got really brave one day. My parents were always working. I won't divulge what they did for a living, but just know, that it was totally unreligous.

I got brave enough to the point to ask my middle sister if I could sleep with her. Not have sex. Never had sex with any of them. However, as time went on with my middle sister, we slept together, naked, bathed together, and spent every minute we could together. While watching her in the shower, I used to masturbate all the time. She was my prettiest sister I think, we had a very close bond.

My youngest sister and I used to change together all the time. When we were really young, 6-7ish, we used to play "doctor." After swimming, we would get out of the pool, and change our clothes together. This sister and I actually made sexual contact a couple times. Still never had intercourse. She stopped talking to me for years over it. Finally, once we grew up, and I got married, and had my first son, only 2 years ago, did she want to be a part of my life again. She has since, forgiven me.

My oldest sister, I also used to masturbate to while taking a shower or bath. That was pretty exciting. I used to have to "go to the bathroom" when ever she was in the tub. She never would close the curtain either.Years after, I would fantasize about having sex with my oldest sister. Better view for me!

I am not saying anything you feel is wrong, however, now grown up, I would advise against any sexual acts with your sister. Seeing one naked, is a little different then having sex with her. It could be devastating to both of you in the future.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008):

My sister is a curvy girl, which i like in women. I have had many fantasies and have wanted to have sex with her on many occasions, but i have and hopefully never will, because even i think its a little wrong and nasty. Just keep the feelings under control.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007):

You are far from the only teenage guy to find a female relative sexy! When you see naked woman, your reaction is automatic, whether she is related to you or not. Just remember that you are attracted to a beautiful female body - you actually don't want to have sex with your sister. If you did have sex with her, you would feel terrible about it later. When I was 16, I stayed with my aunt at her beach condo. The first evening, we both got back from the beach and she went to shower first. It's a 1 bedroom condo, with the bathroom just off of the living room. She took her two piece bathing suit off right in front of me like it was nothing and walked into the shower. She showered (in a see-through glass shower) with the door open the entire time. I couldn't look away and masturbated myself to climax as I watched her shower. Right afterward, I felt terrible and ashamed of myself. I told her to please close the door when naked, because I was uncomfortable. She said that she didn't think about it, since she didn't think I would respond to her sexually since she was my relative. I told her that it is quite easy for a man to be attracted to a sexy female relative if she is naked in front of him. So she was more modest around me after that - no harm done. Bring it up as soon as you can, though, because otherwise, your desire will only get stronger.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007):

But I have also read posts from women who said they practiced sexual things on their brother, and it was the sister's idea. Many of them said they asked their brother to show them how to do things, like give handjobs and blowjobs, so that they would know how to do those things when they got a boyfriend. Some of these were women who had a twin brother, so they were close and did sexual things with each other because they trusted their brother more than other guys. These same women said they had no negative outcomes from these experiences and said it helped them get ready for having sex with other guys. So not all incest experiences involve a brother molesting his sister, nor do they all have negative outcomes.

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A male reader, farmertull United States +, writes (28 November 2007):

farmertull agony auntI understand but I also know women who had sex or were molested by their brothers and I married one and she has never trusted men ever. The damage done is beyond belief you are her brother and there is responsiblity of trust and loyalty. Years from now you and your sister will still be close with your own families and not have the uncomfortable memory of incest to ruin it. I have paid for that in misery and money for counciling

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007):

Hi All

Just noticed alot of these people thats are saying this is the norm including the poster have all be annon. Why? What are you afraid of. So your 16-17 you can't control your feelings, sl lets say your sister is a minor 13-15 if you can't control your feelings think this is alright and act on them THIS IS ABUSE weither you sister agrees with you or not.I assume you know the diff between right and wrong? You say mistakenly so she does not do this infront of you, you need to be able to control yourself as you will see many females change clothes dress provockativly that does not mean they are up for anything, if you still think this is alright and the others that say this is the norm you all have serious problems.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007):

I recommend that you think about having sex with other girls and go out with them. If you start thinking about having sex with them instead of your sister, that should fix the problem.

Also, to the last poster, you said you and some of your friends have had the same problem. Did you talk about this problem with each other? And did any of you ever try having sex with your sisters?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

Its alright...

Some of my friends have had the same problems and so have I.

It happens because your body and mind are changing.

You can't control it to a certain degree.

Yes its weird, but also natural.

Just think to yourself is there a certain thing that turns you on?

If so then channel your focus into somebody else by dating.

Try to stay away from your sister for a while.

Do some of your favorite activities to help you focus on something else.

Also, if you need to talk to it about somebody like a conselor or a close friend be brave.

Its hard telling your deepest feeling to other people,

But talking it out makes you feel better.

Just listen to my advice and everyone else's, and you will be fine. Trust me!

Also I'm suprised at the maturity that people showed in their replies. Good Job people!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007):

im 19 and ive always had feelings for my sister, she is pretty hot. i dont know whats so bad about that, iv seen her naked so many times. i used to watch through a crack in the door to see her walk naked to the bathroom. sometimes i would walk in on her as she was getting dressed (on purpose) just to see what she did. i started to walk about naked infront of her too, but nothing happened, apart from my penis shriveling up even more than usual from the embaresment, its only 3" at best! it was kinda fun, but we never did nething, i dont see y u cant see each other naked, start there and if nothing happens then forget about it. if u wana chat bout it [email address blocked]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007):

Dude, it's perfectly normal feeling when u see a nude person of the opposite sex. Acting on these feelings though would not be a great idea for many of the reasons people have mentioned. I saw my sister undress and had the same feelings...I just thought about the end results and spoke with my sister about making sure the door was closed from now on. Pretty simple solution don't you think. Don't think for a minute that your weird or abnormal, just don't act on those sexual urges.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007):

To the last poster, why do you have these feelings for your sister? Is she really attractive and sexy with a hot body? Or are your feelings for her more emotional than physical?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007):

Listen dude, I know the feelings are wrong even though they feel so good, I have similar feelings towards my sister, but I just try not to acknowledge it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007):

Dude i am going through the same phrase, you'r not alone many poeple go through this.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007):

WHY

WHY

WHY INCEST!

OMG DUDE

WHAT ARE U THINKING YPOUR SISTER?!??!!

DIS APOINTED(even tho i don't know you)

MY GOSH

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007):

How is it that you are able to see your sister changing clothes? As far as having sex with her, you will need to find out if she feels the same way about you before you bring up the subject of having sex wtih each other. If she feels the same way, you will have to weigh the potential benefits versus the possible consequences, which could be very, very serious. One way might be to let her see you changing clothes and see how she reacts.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007):

You are 16-17 and you fancy your sister? These feelings are NORMAL whatever people say. A healthy male who has their testosterone levels going through the roof will get these feelings or thoughts and there's nothing much you can do about it.

The thing you can do is to control yourself. True, sometimes an urge on instinct or a desire is too strong, but in this case one must learn to control themself, not for you, but for her, your sister.

However, if you both really love each other, I do not see what's wrong with expressing that love, however, if you do both end up in a sexual relationship, use CONDOMS or other CONTRACEPTIVES. Don't destroy your life, family and reality because you two ended up with a child.

Think it really hard, she is your sister. You've grown up with her, and you really care for her. Don't do anything rash or anything that will hurt her. If you two however express each other's love, go for it, but keep it safe.

Cheers.

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A male reader, Closet Nymph Australia +, writes (21 July 2007):

Closet Nymph agony auntUnless you think there’s a good chance your sister will be up for it,don't bring it up. She may never forgive you. On the other hand, it may be the best thing you do!

You need to weigh up the odds.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007):

dont take this the wrong way but go to the washroom masturbate and then think about your sister you should feel dirty then you wont think about it and get a girl king killa 5kk

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A female reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff United Kingdom +, writes (8 July 2007):

lisarocksyoursocksoff agony aunti agree with Dr.Pete about some of the answers on here, a person comes on here asking for help, and yet people can do nothing but be nasty... in my mind that makes them a bad person.

you yourself know that the situtaion is unusual, which is why you have asked for advice... this therefore shows, that you don't actually 'want' to be with your 'sister' but you can't help having the urges to be with her...

if it continues, then you can seek counselling to help you deal with these emotions, but in the meantime i'd sugest you realise that you are at a very confusing time in your life, where you are experiencing mental, emotional and physical changes, so keep that in mind. you're a selct person brave enough to seek help, you're normal and not a bad person but are just dealing with a not so normal situation

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007):

I'm surprised at most of the replies on this page. Most teenagers have inappropriate sexual thoughts during their development around the adolescence years. They don't usually last very long at all and in that are normal. As your development continues your attraction will soon enough fix on to women that aren't taboo and you'll probably forget that you even had these thoughts.

Any experienced counsellor will tell you just as I have - the only exception is if there are any signs that you intend to go beyond the fantasy to creating it in reality.

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A female reader, darksecretangel United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2007):

darksecretangel agony auntDONT even think about your sister.

Its wrong on so many levels. If you tried anything you could wreck your relationship with your sister and the rest of your family.

Stop watching your sister undress, this will probably lessen the feelings of lust towards her. You are at the age where your hormones are all over the place. DONOT i repeat DONOT try anything towards her, visit your gp or ask for help. You will not be judged and you will get over it.

GOOD LUCK

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A female reader, JessIzFit United Kingdom +, writes (15 June 2007):

JessIzFit agony auntHeya, there was a time when i fancied my sister. I got over it. Maybe you just need to find someone else out in the world or just meet up with some male friends. I am not calling you abnormal but it is not very healthy to be in this situation. I suggest a counselling session or going to a GP perhaps. They helped me with my feelings and emotions and remember they will neva judge anyone. Hope it works out hun and i hope i helped you,

Louise

XxXxXxXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007):

Incest IS wrong especially close blood relatives like brother's and sisters,that's just as bad as having sex with your mum. You need to control these feelings because they are getting out of hand and to be honest i am very concerned. I know step-brother's and sisters do this but actual brothers and sisters is stomach turning- i could NEVER fancy my own brother.You are obviously at an age now where you start to have lusts and i do not judge you for that, after all you are only human but please stop looking and thinking of your sister in this way. Not only that it is ILLEGAL and a criminal offence to do anthing like that with your siblings. Please get a grip.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007):

his brain is turned on into the mode...he's going to do something stupid and try to bring this fantasy to a reality and when he does, he's going to have to live with a shared reality(which can't be turned off like a fantasy) of having had sex with his sister.

keep it a fantasy!

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A female reader, cuttieicy Philippines +, writes (5 June 2007):

cuttieicy agony auntdont do that she is your sister you must respect her

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007):

You are at the begining height of your sexual needs. I think you love your sister, but not in that way. Go on a date, buy a magazine or stand in front of a fan. You will be ok. Just stop watching your sister undress.

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A female reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2007):

lisarocksyoursocksoff agony aunthave you had previous relationships? you're only seventeen so your body is still changing and dealing with emotions, it is possible that seeing a naked woman, no matter who it was would have caused these feelings. try and approach it like that, if in time you can't escape these feelings then i suggest you speak in confidence to soemone you can trust such as a counsellor, you are not strange so please ignore the close-minded views of others who aren't actually realising that you're situation is difficult enough.

i most definetely agree that you shouldn't become involved romantically with your sister however.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007):

i say you should go for it...

if you guys really love eachother than it will just come naturally..i dont know why incest is so bad.

If you love someone you should be able to show it..no matter who they are..

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A female reader, candy00s United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2007):

candy00s agony auntJust remember that she is your SISTER! and that nothing can or ever will happen here.

is this a serious problem?????

Get out there and mix with girls you have a chance with. Having sex with your sister is incest.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007):

Seek some professional help right away....you have a serious problem if you want to have sex with a sibling, have you been sexually abused as a kid? Do you live in an alchoholic home? Are you addicted to watching porn, internet?

You need to calm down, take a cold shower and speak to your minister, your priest, your doctor, a school counselor, a therapist, someone who can help you..

Incest is not the norm, it is a complete lack of personal boundaries and belies a deeper problem, please seek some help from someone in your community.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2007):

DrPsych agony auntIf this is a serious post (I doubt it), you need to get psychological help from a professional because you are clearly not a well young man.

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