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*hamrocks
writes:I have a crush on my younger brother-in law.I havn't made a move yet and i think there is a mutual attraction. My hubby loves me dearly and i feel awful about what i feel but i just can't help it. Can someone please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): I suggest you avoid temptation and go to bed with your husband.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, shamrocks +, writes (12 August 2008):
shamrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou probably all right. i just hope the next time he sleeps over at our house and hubby goes to bed, i will remember what you all said.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Thanks to everyone who has replied to my question. i really appreciate it. it's good knowing there are all of you out there whom i can depend on for an honest perspective.
Thanx xxxooxxx
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reader, TeMpTrEsS  +, writes (12 August 2008):
I feel u 110 percent. This is a real bad situation to be in. I for one am in this same situation. The only difference is we're just friends with benefits.I am not married to the man. I still feel bad about wanting his brother. We both want each other. I just try to stay away from him. As long as were apart I'm good, but the MINUTE I hear his name or see him I go craazy all over again. It's really bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I am in the same situation but reverse. If your brother in law is not around, then in time your relationship with your husband will get better and this idea of seeking to hookup with the brother in law will fade.
One thing you have to understand, is that fantacies we can control and make them disappear without anyone being involved, but when you share a reality with someone, you can't make that disappear like you could a fantasy, so therefore, you have to be prepared to deal with the emotional attachments you can't turn off once you create a reality together.
If you feel this is something you can do and be mature about not creating a history, then yes maybe you should act on it.
I am not perfect like most of the people writing here but one thing for certain, if this is something you could handle and make disappear like a fantasy, then go for it....but never inform your husband or anyone about it, because this shouldn't be there burden to bear....it's yours.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Just ask him if he wants to have sex with you. Could be alot of fun.
really?
NO.
dont do anything you will regret later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Don't act on this CRUSH; it will only cause you lots of pain and problems; not just with your husband BUT with his family and friends; Do you for one minute believe the family will accept you with the brother? I doubt! I think they will turn him against you!
This is just not worth all the pain and trauma; Try not to think about it and concentrate on all the good QUALITIES in your husband.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Just think of all the hurt if you do act on this. Broken marriage, sleepless nights, everyone upset and crying over what you have done, husband going to pieces.
Still think its a good idea?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Crushes fade, just hang on, this one will too. Do not do anything that you will regret. Try never to be alone with your brother in law. Just give this time, you'll be so glad that you didn't do anything foolish.
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