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writes:Hi all, does it count as cheating say if : you are married, your husband walks out with no real reason for 2 months, you go back when he asks you, but find it hard to deal with. You leave him for 3 weeks and you are intimate with another man. You then go back to talk with your husband but decide to separate as for me to do something like this, really states that there is something really wrong in our relationship as i have never, never cheated in my life and it must surely mean the END of my marriage! My husband wants me to stay with him, but now i believe its to late, he does not know I was with another man. I dont think there is any hope now as i have done this. I had given everything i had to the marriage before he walked out and even after, but then got totally depressed and sad. Please advise
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reader, love-him +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi, if you were broken up, or on a break, it is not classed as cheated, even if you are married. Try to see a doctor if you are still depressed, mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (22 November 2007):
Two wrongs will never make a right. Your husband made a mistake of walking out on you for 2 months. Ok we understand you needed time alone when you left him for 3 weeks but that was no justification to go and sleep with another man. When you marry you should expect problems in future,it can't be bliss through out. I also understand that you were depressed and sad and couldn't think straight. Don't feel too sad,he may have cheated as well the time he was away. You should both give it a lats try and make it work. Try to live with it for a while and if you can't tell him and live with the consequences. I hate to see marraiges crumble and makes me really sad. Personally i would ask you to forget about the mistake you made and try to be the best wife you can be. I believe this is the only way of winning your husband's heart back but find the courage to ask as well if he's got any confessions.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi,In 1 way you can say it is cheating as you were still married in another way no its not as you had seperated, I understand how you are feeling right now as i cheated on my husband around 6 yrs ago, I felt like i had given everything to my marriage but yet i got nothing in return i felt depressed and lonely i got no love and certainly no respect, but after some hard work and plenty of tears we managed to put everything behind us and start again now we are even better than we ever were before. Whats done is done there is nothing you can do to change that but speaking from experience I know there is hope if you still love your husband, you need to talk to him and tell him what has happened and how you are feeling, There is no doulbt that he will be hurt but with lots of talking and hard work it can work out, but only if you are both comitted. I hope i have helped you and that you get the answers you are looking for, But most important of all keep smiling!!Lu x
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