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Forever single?

Q.   It is hard to describe how much a single two letter word can cause so much pain. From middle school to now I have heard to word no more times I care to count. I have always thought how myself as a nice caring person however I was always isolated, ...

A.   19 April 2010: I understand for your situation: I'm 21 and I never had a girlfriend either. I tried some ways to meet girls, but it doesn't work. I didn't try online dating yet, but will do within the next 2 years (university eats a lot of my time). I am isolated ... (read in full...)

Is being on top less like to get a girl pregnant?

Q.   Hey my friend told me if a girl is on top during sex its less likely to get pregnit with out a condom is that true?...

A.   7 April 2010: it is slightly less likely, but still very likely ! (source: it is recommended for couple who want to have babies to have the woman under the man). However, do not think it is safe if you are on top...... (read in full...)

Could my husband sue?

Q.   I've been having an affair with a man for 8 or 9 months. Last month, I became pregnant with his baby, but I recently had a miscarriage. Because of that situation, my husband found out. He knows everything at this point and has obtained all the ...

A.   7 April 2010: You are in the united states, you can sue anyone for anything, especially for causing this much damage (moral and psychological). Your husband can sue for any or all of the following : - Moral and psychological damage - Therapy and prescription... (read in full...)

My ex is threatening me with "truth" tablets, do they exist?

Q.   Ok everyone Im still in contact with my ex. The thing is my brother done something not horrible to him and my ex thinks im involved in some sor of way The other day he said something o me over the phone about hes ordered somehing on lin...

A.   27 February 2010: There are such chemical products, but I am not sure your ex can get his hands on them.... (read in full...)

Do guys really have so many erections in a day?

Q.   Your possibly gonna laugh when you read this but i;ve always been curious and i'd rather make myself look stupid on here than in public lol! but is it true that guys really get loads of erections a day some say 5 some say 10 some say more or is i...

A.   4 January 2010: yea we can have a lot of erections per day, but I never counted. It only depends on what we think about and/or which situations we go in ! It does not hurt though, as long as my underwear is big enough to cover it all (hitting my zipper with an ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin at the age of 23...

Q.   Dear Cupid, I will be 23 in february and i am still a virgin. My best friend and the family members who know say its such a good thing and hold me up on some sort of pedestal. I know they are saying this because its the right thing to say and life...

A.   29 December 2009: Short and simple answer from a guy: I don't see how any man could ever be turned off by a gorgeous 23 years old virgin. ... (read in full...)

Why are bigger breasts better?

Q.   I know this has been asked a million times, but why are big breasts better? Honestly give me the reasons of why they're superior to small breasts when it comes to SEXUAL PLEASURE. Nothing to do with not having back aches, or that big breasts produce ...

A.   28 November 2009: big breast are not better.... I prefer a woman who has good proportions over a woman with big breast.... (read in full...)

Is sex before marriage okay?

Q.   Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? ...

A.   1 November 2009: Yes, it is perfectly natural to have sex before mariage ! Even if you think it's the right person, you will want to make sure that the sexual part of the relationship answers your needs before commiting to this one person for the rest of your lif... (read in full...)

Do guys think virgins are a total turn off?

Q.   ok, so do guys think virgins are a total turn off? im asking this because i am one and every guy i end up telling this to gets really uncomfortable even though they are the ones that asked. and then of course they run when i tell them i dont believe ...

A.   15 October 2009: Virgins aren't turn off ! It's nice to know she choose you to be her first. It's more work, though. However, if you are the kind of woman that does not want to have sex before mariage, you should be very clear about that, or you will lose a *... (read in full...)

Is playing hard to get a good thing?

Q.   ok what does a guy mean when he says "your playing hard to get"?is that a good thing?...

A.   14 October 2009: Usually a bad thing. The only type of guys you'll attract doing so is players: they'll enjoy the challenge, then leave once it's gone. Also, if a guy is interested in you, but that your "hard to get" level is higher than you market value (on... (read in full...)

How do I get some meaningful sexual experience?

Q.   Hey there everyone, I've been feeling really blue lately. This is the first time I've ever really talked about this, so please bare with me a bit as I fumble with explaining things.. I'm 18 (and a half) and have no experience whatsoever wi...

A.   14 October 2009: I'm 20, pretty much in the same situation. Taking it step by step. Got information from all around the web about what I wanted to know (but was careful to use judgment). However, sometimes I think I'm too picky: looking for something meanin... (read in full...)

I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!

Q.   Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...

A.   11 October 2009: I have no idea what an unreal aunt is, but if she is a member of your familly, I feel this is kind of wrong. However, if she is not a member of your familly, well then yea, I'm pretty sure it will be great to have sex with her again: 33 years ol... (read in full...)

Is it weird for a girl to enjoy porn?

Q.   i'm a girl, with a pretty damn good sex life, but i secretly love to watch porn. is that weird? my ex thought it was hot, but he was very open and adventerous, to "normal" guys is it weird for me to like to watch porn?...

A.   26 September 2009: No, it's not weird ! Most guys do watch porn, I can hardly see how they would find it strange their gf does.... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have a passionate kiss on a first date?

Q.   Is it ok to kiss a guy on the mouth the first date or will he think I'm a whore ? Thanks for any input you can give I have an upcoming date with this guy I have only met once and he is really cute. So naturally I want to kiss him lol ! ...

A.   24 September 2009: Of course it's ok ! ... (read in full...)

"piercings make a girl look slutty"

Q.   guys, do u like tattoos and piercings on a girl?? is a tongue piercing trashy? i want to get my tongue pierced for my 16th birthday in a few months but my boyfriend, who is covered in tattoos but no piercings, says that it will make me look slu...

A.   20 September 2009: Personnaly, I think a high number of piercing is not attrative. Also, you might attract the wrong kind of guy by projecting this image. But yea, if you want to do it, searched for possible consequence, and still want to do it, then do it.... (read in full...)

How does a shy 40 year old meet people?

Q.   Hello Everyone I am a 40 yr old single female with a good job, independent and people have told me I am beautiful etc. I take care of myself, play tennis, eat right and as a result was able to maintain my youthful figure etc. The reason why ...

A.   14 September 2009: Well, you could join a dating site. But on a philosophical side, I'd make sure that you know one thing: there is no charming prince on a white horse, anywhere, not even on the web. Just saying that because some women are really, really, ... (read in full...)

I hear my dad masturbating and it's really bothering me!

Q.   Hi, i am a 14 year old female and i have a big problem! my dad keeps constantly masturbating and its really bothering me! he gets up at the middle of the night to turn on the TV and masturbate and its really disturbing! like the noises he make!! ...

A.   27 August 2009: Maybe you should tell him that you hear him: that would be pretty embarassing for him and I think he would find a way to do it in a way that you do not hear it. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has arranged for me to have sex with her friends! Should I run a mile?

Q.   I know how this is going to sound but it's the truth, I swear to God. I've been with my girlfriend for three years now. She's the woman of my dreams to say the least and our sex life has always been fantastic. However, I've discovered a sid...

A.   26 August 2009: Don't run ! She loves you to the point that she will do anything to make you happy, is that a crime ? ... (read in full...)

Why is taking longer for my girlfriend to climax?

Q.   This is a post mark to is my girlfriend a player. When we first started dating when we have sex she would climax within 15 minutes, orally sometimes within 5. After December it became the time double and she became to incorporate a vibrator into ...

A.   26 August 2009: I guess vibrator creates an addiction with some people, she might be one of those people.... (read in full...)

Are guys our there who like androgymous tomboy girls?

Q.   I am not straight. I like women more but men sometimes too. I feel most comfortable being androgynous - shortish hair, confident manner, and a bit tomboyish: I like to open doors for my dates and generally naturally gravitate away from the feminine ...

A.   15 August 2009: I do not want to be mean in any way, but find a man who likes non penetrative sex will be hard. And if you do so, you might find out he is a very complexed man, or might be a transverti. Maybe the problem lies in your perception of penetration ?... (read in full...)

How else can I meet new people?

Q.   Ok so I am a single 26 year old, I have been single for soooooo long. All of my friends are in long-term relationships, getting married, are already married and having children, I am really happy for them because they have found good men that are ...

A.   15 August 2009: I'd say go for a dating web site. I myself will join one this fall.... (read in full...)

Does his sexual request reflect his level of respect for me?

Q.   My new bf and I are having a long distance thing, we see each other every other wkend. We mainly communicate through daily txts. Naturally sometimes our txts turn abit dirty : ) We have told each other our sexual requests for nxt time we meet up....

A.   4 August 2009: This fantacy has nothing to do with the respect he has for you, it's just something he wants to try because he thinks it will be exiting ! ... (read in full...)

How do I explain to my b/f how I feel about porn!

Q.   how do i explain to my boyfriend how i feel about porn! it gets me really depressed that im not the only person he wants and he wishs he could have sex with these girls! i ave low confidence and my confidence is completely gone because of this! its ...

A.   4 August 2009: He doesn't want those girls... they are not real, it's fiction. If he did not want you, he would not be with you.... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant, can I still have sex?

Q.   hello i m 12 week runing pragnant this is my 1st pragancy so dnt know about sex during in pragancy could u tell me please can i sexual intercorse with my partner? i dnt know if i do any sexual activtes can effect my baby or not, i did my 1st scan ...

A.   4 August 2009: Having sex does not interfere with pregnancy in any bad way.... (read in full...)

I'm 28, He's 66. Do you think the age difference is too great?

Q.   I need to know other peoples opinion about my current relationship. I am 28 year old female and dating a 66 year old male. Nobody in my family knows about it because I am quite sure they are not going to approve. I really love this man and some...

A.   4 August 2009: The difference is too great... he stoped working, you start working... by the time you want kids, he will no longer be able to give them to you. And there is worse: even if you did have some kids with him he would be too old to take night shifts or ... (read in full...)

Why haven't I gotten my period yet? We had unprotected sex but he never came!

Q.   okay , so i lost my virginity a day after my last period . it's been approximatly 32-34 days since then , since my period. the 1st time we ddnt use a condom , but he never came/finished. whats wrong? why havent i gotten my period??? :(...

A.   4 August 2009: There is a good probability that there is sperm in a man's pre-cum. I think you are pregnant, so do a test.... (read in full...)

Cooking up trouble, we hooked up, I wouldn't go far enough, now he wants nothing to do with me...

Q.   Hi, i've been looking for answers to my predicament online, and i found this website--people seem to give actual answers--so i thouhgt i'd give it a shot. i met an older guy (he's 24, I'm 19) at a place i worked for a few months. --long story sho...

A.   3 August 2009: You gave him all the right signals, then didn't want to go foward... I'd say it's over, don't try anymore, it will not give any kind of good results.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's a virgin and we're ready to have sex, how can I make sure I don't hurt her?

Q.   Ive been going out with this girl for 4 months now and we have got really close. shes still a virgin but that doesnt bother me as I love her so much. She is saying that she is ready to have sex and so am I but she is worried about the pain, im ...

A.   3 August 2009: Make sure she's very relaxed, lots of foreplay, might need extra lubrification. ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?

Q.   Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...

A.   3 August 2009: No, it's not wrong for woman to watch porn, unless their partner strongly disagrees. It brings some new ideas, sometimes, even though a good part of it is bullshit.... (read in full...)

Divorced and wondering if I'm a lesbian. Any thoughts?

Q.   ok, I am confused. I am a female, divorced and wondering about my sexuality. So let me start from the beginning. When I was ten years old i kissed a girl because I was curious and she accepted, I mean it was a gum exchange from mouth to mouth. I ...

A.   3 August 2009: On my point of view, you are either bisexual or lesbian. After a divorce with a man, kind of hard to tell which one it is. For now, you seem to want a relationship with a woman, go for it ! No man will ever understand a woman as well as a woman ... (read in full...)

I feel dirty and like a dumb bimbo to him when he watches porn. Please help

Q.   heres the deal. i am in love, i know it for sure. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost two years, the first year was amazing. i lost my virginity to him .. as a real sexual experiance because i was raped so hes not technically my first.. ...

A.   2 August 2009: Lots of guys watch porn, single or not, satisfied or not. Soemthing like 95% of all guys do masturbate, I wouldn't be surprise if a good part of them watch porn while they do so. I guess it brings something different, but those girl are the dirt... (read in full...)

My boyfriends much more serious about our relationship than I am, and I don't want to lead him on. What should I do?

Q.   I’m really confused could really do with some advice please, its doing my head in, cant bear to talk to anyone I know about it, thanks in advance for any feedback I really appreciate it! Well… I’m in a relationship with this guy have been for 8 ...

A.   2 August 2009: For me, it's clear you do not see him as a lover, but rater a friend. If it's over on your side, I think it would be a good idea to tell him it is... if he is that serious about relationships, he will need all the time he can get to find a serious ... (read in full...)

Need to get my rocks off before settling down... but it may be too late

Q.   Ok, so my fiance has pretty much made me feel as though I'm Satan himself for even considering asking questions like this, but here it goes. We got engaged in February and I really love this girl, I want to marry her (hence the engagement... duh). ...

A.   2 August 2009: People in general have a 50% divorce rate, but that rate is much higher for people who marry too early. 23 is too early, especialy if this is who you feel, and I perfectly understand you, 20s guys have a very high sex drive.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has sex with me at the weekend, then goes back to porn during the week! I don't know how to handle this, what should I do?

Q.   MY boyfriend and i have been togeather since Dec. 2008 and he ive caught him watching porn and he admits to it but when im talking to him at night and he gets off the phone early i ask him if he is really going to bed and tells me yes. but today i ...

A.   1 August 2009: Lots of men, satisfied or not, in couple or not, do watch porn. It is not intended to hurt you in any way, but rather to satisfied a need that cannot be satisfied right at the moment they have it.... (read in full...)

How do I speed things up with her?

Q.   I have been goin out with this girl for about 4 months. But we have not kissed yet. They say let time take its pace but i wish time would go a little faster. what do i do in a situation like this?...

A.   31 July 2009: 4 months ? I'd think it's time to make your move, girls ***do not*** take the first step (especially that young).... (read in full...)

How long will it take for me to start enjoying sex?

Q.   I had 1st time sex with my boyfriend last weekend and we plan to have sex again after a night out this weekend. I knew to expect a bit of pain and discharge 1st time so we used a towel to keep any mess off the bed (my boyfriend also wore a c...

A.   31 July 2009: Well, I'm not a woman, but I've seen other women say it takes 5 times to stop hurting, 10 times to start enjoying.... (read in full...)

How can I convince my fiance to perform on me?

Q.   My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad ...

A.   31 July 2009: Well, make sure you are at the right moment of the month, that you very clean and maybe try some intimate perfume (be careful not to irritate or dry yourself, as this will create unwanted bacterias) Also, start by asking him to simply stimulat... (read in full...)

He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?

Q.   I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...

A.   31 July 2009: I think it's a mental block: the fact that he doesn't like to talk about it makes me think he doesn't have much experience and since first time has an important place in our vision of things, I guess your disatrous first time really printed hard on ... (read in full...)

Are men instantly turned off because I'm not young and thin?

Q.   I am 49 years old and single. I feel like there is not much hope for me in finding a guy who would be interested in me. I think age is against me, and the fact that it is harder and harder to stay in shape. I'm not that heavy--but definitely not ...

A.   30 July 2009: Men look at looks probably just as much as women look at money and looks... but of course, not all women only look after money and looks, and not all men look only after looks (and you probably don't want those anyways). Being smart, confiden... (read in full...)

Does she like me or something?

Q.   I go to the gym 3 days a week, I see 2 girls who go on the same days. I've noticed one who is attractive and our eyes have met a few times over the weeks, I check her out not quite a bit and sometimes catch her looking at me but looks away as soon ...

A.   30 July 2009: Seems like positive signs to me, go ahead and ask for a drink ! ... (read in full...)

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