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writes:Every time I try to have sex with my girlfriend i instantly get hard during foreplay but as soon as I am ready to have full sex I lose my erection I don't know what to do I love her very much and want to please her sexually
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2018): I really don’t think it has to do with how much you care about her. I would recommend going to the doctor it could be something simple or maybe something serious.
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 January 2018):
 Period of not masturbating*
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 January 2018):
I have a similar problem but it's not being able to ejaculate from intercourse from time to time. I went through a 3 week period of it masturbating and it sorted the problem, but whenever I started again the problem came back.
Id imagine the same thing will work for you.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (2 January 2018):
 Honeypie is absolutely correct.
I will say that you might want to diminish your porn usage as well if you watch it more than once per week, because your mind can be just as desensitized as your penis when you're used to artificially stimulating your arousal mechanism with porn when you rub one off.
Erectile dysfunction when it comes to intercourse happens when you flood your sexual response system artificially with too much porn, and/or like Allumeuse said, your penis gets used to a grip and technique (or a Fleshlight or some sort of toy), so it's been conditioned to respond to a stimulus level that the effort of intercourse isn't providing.
In addition to making your girlfriend orgasm BEFORE entering her, you should hold off on all porn/masturbation for a period of time. Reboot your brain to respond to sex rather than artificial means. The good thing about the male sexual response system is that it's resilient. You CAN rebound it.
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reader, Allumeuse +, writes (2 January 2018):
Do exactly as Honeypie says, you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to pleasure with your erection. The best chance you have of pleasing her is by using your mouth and fingers. Why not try getting her off before you try full sex. I think if you succeed you'll soon find your unreliable erections disappear as the pressure is off. If she has another one-that's a bonus!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 January 2018):
 Then go back to pleasing her. Get her rocks off, watch her and my guess is you will get hard again.
80% of women DO NOT (and I will repeat for the boys in the back) DO NOT climax from penetrative sex. So what does that mean? IT MEANS your skills as a lover is NOT just about getting a hard on and sticking it in!
It can be you were too nervous about doing a good job and doing it right, and that CAN happen. Which is why (if you can) you should focus on HER pleasure - with your hands and mouth, and do not forget there is a WHOLE body in front of you with erogenous zones for you to discover.
And know that it's OK to not be a "super lover" from the get go. The better you get at knowing HER body, HER pleasure, the better you get overall.
Relax. Sex is supposed to be fun.
And DO use condoms!
YOU CAN DO IT!
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