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I feel cheap doing what he asks. Will I lose my fiance if I stop agreeing to his requests to skype while undressed?

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Question - (30 December 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2015)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm in a LDR relationship in which we have met recently and have hadsexual relationships. Everything is well except this man loves sex a lot.

He's asked me to undress on Skype and arouse him to masturbate every other night.

I've done it twice now and I must say I hate it. It's not me. I feel cheap.

People say he's my fiance, who has committed to marry me and there should be nothing wrong in pleasing him if I don't want him to stray.

What should I do?

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A male reader, ktbetterman123  United States +, writes (1 January 2015):

He should appreciate that fact that you tried it and he should respect that fact that it makes you feel cheap.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntYou should put on your BIG girl panties and TELL him. I feel uncomfortable doing this. It makes me feel cheap.

One thing is taking your clothes of to a camera/screen anther is to do so in person. While many will think it's a "compliment" to you that he rather wank to his fiance than porn, I find it a little tacky of him to make these demands so HE can "choke the chicken", while you feel degraded.

I'd save this for when you are physically together. And a GUY who can't RESPECT that, is that really a man you want to marry?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (30 December 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou should not have to do something that makes you uncomfortable.

IF a man is going to use the excuse that he's not with his partner as a reason to cheat, then he's not worth anything anyway.

the proper response to his request is "no I'd rather not it makes me uncomfortable"

he could save the skype file and then upload it to some porn site and other guys will use it too.. is that what you want?

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