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writes: I made out with a guy 5 months ago at a great party at university. I stay outside school so it was late and i had nowhere to go but to stay at the party until sunrise or at least when its safe to go to my room. I went there with some two girls so we all had to wait until sunrise. Three guys came to us each of us had a partner. The guy i was partnered with decided he wanted to leave to his room but he just wont leave without me. I was cold, very tired, sleepy and had nowhere to go so i went to his place with him. We lied on his bed started kissing then he tried to take off my pants but i told him to stop and he stopped. I let him suck my breast then i fell asleep as i was very tired that time. In the morning he woke me up and i got up fixed myself a bit and gave him a hug before i left. I had his number as he gave me them when the party started. Later that day i texted him to check how things are between us and he told me that we are NOTHING. I was shocked as i thought we had a really nice conversation. I told him so much about me, my hobbies, my dreamz and planz he did the same but now we are nothing? I asked why? He said that he already has a girlfriend. I felt anger-pain-sadness-shame all at once since i believed he could be someone i want to be with. Now i decided to avoid him. Everytime i see him i have to pretend he doesn't exist. Last month after 4 months of not communicating (but seeing each other) he texted me and asked me why i look at him like he is a piece of trash. I replied with a text and said i was not aware that i look at him like he is trash. After that i told him to delete my number from his phone as i dont trust him. I saw him again today and he saw me. Everytime i see him i get a bad feeling i am ashamed of myself for allowing that to happen. I am shy sometimes if not most of the times. I want to let this bad feeling go away. How do i forget about this? I feel humiliated and no one has ever treated me like this. So i dont know how to handle it. I am still hurt by this feeling of rejection, almost betrayal and embarrasment. How do i let go?
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (3 September 2015):
 Well, you got some valuable experience what a taken guy goes through: he was paired with you, saw you willing, thought he might get some but after you stopped him the committed side on him took over and realized that you don't fit in his scheme of life such that he has. This gives you experience not to make out with men whom you haven't vetted for what they seek: you got yourself in a situation that looked to him like you are just a quick sex affair, someone he could bang and forget about.
You may feel humiliated all you want or wonder why you are rejected, but you would have been rejected and humiliated even more, with this guy, once he did you and acted even worse to cover up his traces for his GF. He does not wanna be with you, he never wanted to be with you, he thought he could lay you quickly and forget you...
So feel blessed that the jerk has done what he did and know that his rejection is the result of your unintended protective. Move on and forget about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2015): It's a feeling you're supposed to have; because your parents raised you with values, and you have respect for yourself.
It only means you realized you made a bad decision, and it is always best to travel with "mad-money" for a cab. Never trust any guy you've just met, and for goodness sake don't go home with him. This ordeal will stick in your head; but the shame will wear off. You had to learn, right? Chalk it all up to experience, and you just won't do it again.
So what if you look at him like trash? He did worse. He tried to treat you like trash. Ignore him and go about your business. If he has anything to say to you, simply tell him save all his comments and thoughts for his girlfriend; you have no interest in hearing them.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 September 2015):
 What do you really have to be ashamed of? For being with a guy and NOT knowing he had a gf?
Be glad he rejected you, he IS a piece of trash who tried to USE you.
Yes, it's a bit humiliating to think you are maybe dating someone, you do something a bit sexual and then next day find out he is a cheating scumbag... I think you are more angry with yourself for falling for his BS and thinking he was a decent guy.
IT HAPPENS! You made a mistake with him. LEARN from it, let it go and move on.
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