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writes:Heh can't believe I will ask this but anyway...I'm a 22 year old guy who has never had sex, now big thing I fear is that a women I do find that I like I wont know how to really make them happy and I don't mean just in bed.I don't really care about sex so much as wanting someone as a companion and someone I can grow old with. Now I know someone I want to go out with but want to know if they do like me how can I make sure that I'm making them happy or if they are just acting to make me feel good...As I don't care how much I enjoy all that stuff but how happy they are and don't want to give them a boring unhappy life. so any tips would be good.Sorry if this is the wrong area or anything never done this before. Reply to this Question
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (16 April 2008):
if you specifically look for someone to ''grow old with'' then Im afraid you will probably end up disappointed at first. you are expecting too much of yourself there is no such thing as the perfect boyfriend, partner or husband.
I think you need to look more closely at these feelings of inadequacy and realise that you are ok! you will meet someone in time just try to be patient. if this person who you like really likes you they wont be acting to make you feel good you will know that they like you for who you are. good luck!
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reader, friendleyness  +, writes (15 April 2008):
hey dude i know exactly how you feel i'm also a virgin, i will tell you just be who you are, you sound genuine so you'll go very very far. have a great future together.
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reader, salvation  +, writes (15 April 2008):
you sound like a good person and you have a great heart. You will have no problem making someone happy as long as your there for them and try to be empathtc to there feeling in other words lots of communication.if ya need some tips just pm me k.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2008):
 As you get to know someone you realize what makes them happy, what makes them unhappy, what makes them laugh, what makes them cry, and what makes them mad. Mostly you learn these things by trial and error, but it's lots of fun. You will find your woman and the two of you will discover each other. Good luck, Buddy.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Oh, q1605!!! There's a story there, I'm sure of it! I'm sending you Big Hugs!!! I don't entirely disagree. I think you have a good point. Let's hope our young friend is very careful who he gives his heart to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): RRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!Your just tooooooooooooooo cute in a mainly way!!!!!!I have to say that love as when I tell my guy he is to cute ya no it has to be a manly kinnda cute eh!, I hope you find your happy place to hunny LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Aeon +, writes (15 April 2008):
Aeon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for replying to my question, and I wish you all the best. I hope that what ever happens yous all find the thing that makes you happy in life.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (15 April 2008):
Well, most people write in here because they are worried, upset or unhappy about their own life. If you are writing into us because your main concern is that you are SO CONCERNED about how to make your future partner happy, you are heading in the right direction. In the beginning, many people have a long wish list of what they want in a partner, never thinking about what they should be doing to please the other person, so I'd say that you a one step ahead of most potential partners. Putting the other person first is the main thing and finding someone who appreciates that and puts YOU first is the best that you can hope for! With your attitude, I think that we could have them lining up around the block if we were a dating site!!! If anyone heard that you aren't concerned about sex, but you are looking for someone to grow old with, they would probably take you home to meet their parents that day!!! Honestly, you don't have a thing to worry about Hun. Your heart is definitely in the right place. I wish you all the best in finding the girl of your dreams. Did I mention that I have a beautiful, blonde 22 year old single daughter? If she finds out that I said that on the web, she will have my guts for garters... LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Your half way there and that is by thinking this way you are thinking about your future partners happiness before your own. Mate do you no what you are a bloody priceless guy thats what, If everyone out there thought along the same lines what a happy place this would be and Im not just talking of men before I get a heap of hate mail (:0) Hunny your obviously a nice guy so just be yourself women love to laugh and have fun with the guy they are with general messing around and been taken out, it does not have to be expensive (well not for me) Im happy with a bag of chips sitting looking at a beautiful view with my guy, Been respected hunny is a good thing but there is no need to tell you that you have heaps of respect anyway....If your lady is happy hunny you will no you will see it in her eyes her smile you will see the way she reacts to you with her body language as well as being bubbly and bouncy alot.. Us girls dont fake that to well if its not real love (well I dont I cant fake being happy if Im not) So my sweetheart just be your caring little self and bobs ya uncle fannys ya aunt you cant go far wrong YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, jordrodg +, writes (15 April 2008):
recent research in the uk has shown that men are just hopeless at realising when women are flirting with them! when you are with this girl look out for the tell-tale signs. prolonged eye contact, nervous eye contact, leaning towards you, looking at your lips... Even if you can't be sure we all have to stick our neck out now and again. just make sure she is aware that you enjoy her company and see if she would like to go somewhere with you sometime, the two of you grabbing a quick coffee or drink somewhere would be a good start and you both will hopefully be able to establish where you stand with each other fairly quickly. Your nerves and fears all seem unfounded at the moment, most likely a result of low self-esteem or a previous knock-back. Confidence in yourself at maintaining a relationship aswell as in the bedroom can only be gained through experience and with the right person this will slot into place. Just be aware that your anxiety and preconceptions may be the only reason that this hasnt happened already, as you prevent yourself from making progress with someone or scare them away in order to save yourself any embarrassment. A knockback or failed relationship is all experience and should be taken forward, its sometimes a long and bumpy road to true love!
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (15 April 2008):
 AWW bless. it's like girls when there virgins and they meet a man a man loves a virgin am i right well the same applys to women women love virgins to. Dont be scared if you get with someone as you love eachother nothing can come in the way, sex isnt everything, She can teach you how she likes being pleasure and what the best possitions ect. I really dont think you have anything to worry about go for it ask her out. Good luck let us know what happens x
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