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41-50,
anonymous
writes: HiI have met a girl online and we chat for about 3 weeks and she came to find me in my country.We met up and hit it quite well and she asked me to be her boyfriend which I agreed that we should try out.During this period of time, she told me she have finacial difficulties and I agree to support her every month.There is one time where she needs money urgently and I sold some of my personal stuff to help her.As the money is not enough she ask her ex boy friend for help too.I am not in her top priority and if I can't raise the money, she will give me up.During our daily conversation, she mentioned about her ex often and etc.During this period of time, we quarrel often and she admit that she don't love me but only like me.I try to help her be it financially or anything and I am in debt.I treat her very good but I am too sensitive and jealous all the times. I feel so insecure all the times.She had a lot of guy friends and a close one.I am giving her time and wishing that one day she will love me knowing that I do alot of things for her and love her whole heartedly.My question is am I stupid/nice or am I asking for trouble myself?I try to let her do what she wants but sometimes I feel so unappreciated. She treat her friends even better than me but she claims she had try her best already.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (18 August 2010):
If you give her one more cent you are out of your mind and will look back on it with serious regret.
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reader, Brandee77 +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Just stop paying for her and see what happens. If she goes then you know for sure she was just using you. If she stays and tries to handle her own Financial problems, which she can't be mad at you about because those were her issues before she met you... Then you know she is there for you. If she goes then you just know it was not meant to be... It was not love and unfortunately at that point you will know the answer.
Good luck either way.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (15 August 2010):
 She's playing you for a chump. Get out before it's too late. Sorry to be blunt, but that's the facts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): The answer is yes to all three and I think you already know. No need to keep people like that around you, you deserve better.
She'll never treat you better because you've already taught her she doesn't need to. She already gave you your answer too, without your money, she'll move on. I say let her.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 She is using you big time! Let her go or you wil loose evrything,fail to raise money then she'l eventualy leave u.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Honestly this sounds like a bad situation.
Which country is she from? How old is she?
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