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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I always see guys my age flirting with girls, chatting with them, making them laugh, even touching them just casually and I feel left behind because I have no idea how to flirt or make a girl attracted to me.I need to know EXACTLY what to do to flirt with a girl. I have never done it before and now there is a girl who I really really like and care about, and although we're friends and I think I have a shot with her, but I know I will lose her if I don't do something.I genuinely don't know how to flirt so please give details. Also, how can I progress to breaking the touch barrier, bearing in mind she is a little shy?
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reader, i.love.you +, writes (26 March 2011):
 Darling, this one is simple.
Being a girl myself, I know what I like and what I find creepy.
SMILE. Literally, if you smile, they'll be putty in your hands. Also, listen to what she says and comment on it later in the conversation, relate yourself to what she's interested in.
TOUCH. Find any way you can to touch her, not in an inappropriate way, of couse. But, if you just (when you call her attention) place your hand for a few second of her back before smiling and moving it (carrying on with smiling and relating). Then, through the conversation, just occasionally touch her hand or maybe her knee, but no higher. Don't scare the girl.
BE YOURSELF. There's nothing worse than a fake personality, and we've all put them on. And, even if you manage to secure another date, you'll end up slipping your persona and seeming like a very creepy person indeed.
Hope this helps :)
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female
reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (26 March 2011):
 Flirting to some is an ART. WATCH people who are good at it. It needs to be subtle and genuine. You can not FAKE flirt, if not done right it, just comes across and slimy or lame.
One main thing though, YOU have to be YOURSELF.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (26 March 2011):
 Ahh my friend, it would have been nice if women came with a user manual so you know EXACTLY what to do to flirt but in real world that is not the case i am afraid! It is something for you to discover over the years to come. There is no secret recipe that will guarantee success. Also keep in mind that some people just "have it" and some others don't. Some are natural flirts and some have to try hard. What I would suggest to do is observe others and learn. Try to spot their pros and cons in their methods, what works and what doesn't. Do not try to copy others because different techniques work with different cases and different people. Instead observe and try to form your own flirting technique that will suit your personality better. But above all try not to alter your personality and character and pretend to be someone you are not. Trust me, women can smell this fakeness from miles away! Best of luck buddy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): How to flirt... To start dont be someone your not, very important.Next the thing a girl always notices is a smile, if your smiling at them, they'll smile back. Just one more little step to get closer with them.Next you say the whole touching thing, well this can be done in many, many ways! but build something first, if its just a hug you want from them, get into a mini rutien with them, ever time you see them give them a hug ect. They'll get used it being a part of you!Another one would be eye contact, if you show some decent eye contact and get locked looking at each other, all you need to do then is say "Hello!" and your off!When you get to that stage you have their number ect, try text them in the morning. Something like, "Hey beautiful, how are you this morning?" Really helps them start the day right which means you'll get a better reaction back!I hope these little things helped and good luck!
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