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writes:Hello, my boyfriend lives in a big flat with his male friends. The problem is one of his friends is going to spend this summer in a different city. And he said that instead of him, there will be living some his female friend, in his words "the most beautiful girl", also he said she is a slut who has sex with anyobody without any boundaries. This really scares me. I trust my boyfriend, but the idea of some slut walking in their apartment in lingerie and teasing and tempting my bf is too much for me to accept. My bf is a very good looking guy and really nice, so I bet she´ll be trying to get him into the bed.I wanted to have calm summer without a stress and all I can think of now is this...I can´t be still with my bf, so I can´t be there always to watch him...Also I can´t live for the two months there instead of her because I don´t have money to pay the rent...And I can´t tell that guy I don´t agree with her to live there, because I don´t live there and I don´t have any right to tell that...What am I supposed to do? I´m totally nervous... Thanks for advices
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): You need to come clean and talk to your boyfriend about your worries. Period.
I think being completely open about your worry and putting it out in the light, takes the power away from it.
Honestly, I don't blame you for feeling nervous about it. An attractive women who has no sexual boundaries living with my boyfriend would definitely bother me, as it would most women. I do believe he ultimately has the power to choice, but nonetheless, the situation is less than ideal.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (23 June 2013):
 Wow, slut shaming is low. He obviously has no respect for women if he's calling a woman who is enjoying the same sexual freedom that men have names.
If he cheats on you with her, that's a failing on HIS part more than hers. Obviously it takes two to tango, but he's already taken and the bigger sin is on him, because he's a grown-ass man and should be mature and responsible enough to control himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): You and your boyfriend need to show a level of respect for the girl. Calling her a slut when you don't know her is quite rude. And even if she slept with whomever she wanted - that is her business and she has control of her sexuality. If by "without any boundaries" you mean she even sleeps with nonsingle people, then what do you have to worry about? Should your boyfriend choose to cheat then both parties are at fault (the girl and your boyfriend). Which in that case, dump your boyfriend. And if your boyfriend knows her to be a "slut" then he should keep his guard up around her. So the excuse of "I got drunk and the girl was making moves on me" shouldn't be a valid excuse in the future. Let's be honest too. If your boyfriend can't control himself then he's a waste of time.
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