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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:How much control is too much control? My boyfriend of two years doesn't like me around ANY guys. All of my friends before him were guys, but now I've lost them. I didn't care at first but now it's a problem. I've been trying to work on it lately and he has too, I've been making some guy friends but it's been a little tough for him. How much control is okay for a relationship? I dont really go and hang out with guys on my own, and I dont think I'd be okay if he did that with girls so thats fair I guess. What about texting tho, too far? I have to drive my co-worker/(who is a guy) to work with me from school when school starts cause he cant drive, is that weird? Is it true that in some cases a little control is fine? Is there a chance the control will get worse in the future or not always? Is anyone else's relationship like this?
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reader, biogirl +, writes (26 April 2013):
You should realize that men dont cope well with being friends with women and eventually feel sexual attraction and want more.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 August 2009):
ANY control is too much control.
You agreed to be his girlfriend. That means he gets to hang out with you, hold your hand and sometimes kiss you.
That is IT. That is the ONLY thing he gets.
Who you are friends with is your business and if he can't trust you then he shouldn't be with you.
If a man EVER tried to tell me who I could and couldn't see then I would dump them in a second. I will always respect their feelings but I will never do what I am told.
You are a woman and you are in control of your life. Don't go out with boys who don't respect that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Many relationships are like that; I mean, in many relationships one party wants to control the other, and usually this becomes manifest in "forbidding" the person to have friends of the opposite sex. Of course this is blackmail: "either me or THEM". It is wrong.
You need to stand up for your own right to have friends of your own.
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