A
male
age
36-40,
*errickh all
writes:My gf and I are having issues with our families accepting a mistake we made and I really could use some advice.We have been dating officially for about four months now. But eight months ago we met while we both were in relationships. I was married and she was living with her bf. we ended up having an affair with each other and a few months into she thought she might have been pregnant (turns out she wasn't) We both realized that we had to figure out what we wanted from our affair and we decided to end our other relationships and come clean about our affair. I didn't excpect our families to be thrilled about it, I'm ashamed I cheated on my ex wife and I know saying I wasn't happy isn't a reason to cheat but it happened and now we want to move on from that but our families just can't get past it.Her family blames me, saying she was happy until I came along. They continuesly tell her if I cheated on my wife I will do the same to her and my family blames both of us but my sister cannot be in the same room with her with out saying something rude. H
View related questions:
affair, cheated on my wife, ex-wife, move on, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2014): This is the fall-out you should have expected. You know cheating means you have to lie to somebody, the ones you cared about once.If someone lied to you, double crossed you, what would you do when you found out, make excuses for the behaviour or think 'I can't trust them anymore' ?Your family and hers have clear moral boundry's and you both crossed them.You know all this though.I say, give it time, lot's of time, prove you will stay together and not cheat with others. Perhaps the family will accept you both as a couple eventually, see you with a future.If they don't, well that's just the way it is and you will both have to accept it.
|
