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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My question is regarding cheating parents. A few years ago, my father cheated on my mother. I am considerably younger than my siblings AND when this infidelity occurred, I was placed in the middle of the drama because of my age difference. Although I am not very young anymore, this is still an issue that affected me emotionally. In the wake of this alleged affair (I say alleged because I don't know the whole story), I was in turmoil. Some of my siblings turned against my father while my brother AND I tried to remain neutral AND rational. It seems that the affair brought up a lot of unresolved resentment AND bad memories from the past. These feelings affected me greatly because it was the first time I learned of a lot of them. Now the female that this affair had occurred with is back in the area. My father is in contact with her AND I had even spent time with them both today. I remain courteous AND friendly (after all, she is the same age as I) but I can't help but feel this deep resentmentAND anger towards the both of them. I do not know that anything has happened, other than the exchanging of emails my sister found AND the odd behavior that my father had during her previous visit AND after her departure.At this point, I don't know what to do AND I've been acting normal, but this is always at the back of my thoughts. I don't even know where to start.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 This is between your mother and father. It is there marriage. Yes I totally understand that you would be effected by this as well. I am glad you remained neutral because at the end of the day he is still your father no matter what. Even children do not know the complete history between there parents.
However after saying this, it has still effected you, therefore I suggest that you talk to someone, maybe your mother or father, or even a sibling you are close to. If not then maybe you could see a counsellor to talk about how you are feeling. It is never good to keep all these feelings built up inside.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 July 2012):
 It's never a bad idea to act courteous and polite around people, regardless of what you do and don't know about them....
Your parents' marital diffulties? Forget 'em....
Good luck...
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