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writes:So how do you give a guy signs you're not interested? I thought I really liked this boy, so I was really into him and flirty and stuff.. now I've gone off of him. Its for various reasons, but the thing is he still keeeeps on texting me and messaging me online and I keep giving him short one worded answers and stuff but he's not stopping. What would I do to show him I don't want a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Put yourself in his shoes and think how you would want to be treated in this situation...now you know what you need to do and say.Please don't be a coward and hope that he gets the message eventually. It's not fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): The next time he texts you respond with thank you for your message but I'm afraid I don't wish to continue any contact, thank you for bring so understanding and good luck in the future. Then any further text simply delete without reading and never once respond; so that if he tries to verbally speak to you can say 2 no idea what your on about as I don't read your text but automatically delete them. Hopefully after a while he will get the message and if not buy a new simcard and give only the closest friends your new number.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (21 May 2010):
 Just tell him. The longer you drag it out (that means replying to his texts, mails so forth) he will think you are still interested, so be honest ( don't be rude or crude) Be polite and tell him as nicely as possible, that you aren't interested and to please stop texting/calling/mailing...
If he doesn't accept this, then just delete him, cut of all contact, sooner or later he will get the point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): "I keep giving him short one worded answers and stuff but he's not stopping."
Acting arrogant doesnt fix every problem. You need to tell people how you feel, not hurt them.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 May 2010):
 "Hey, thanks, it's been fun texting and flirting, but I don't feel the same way anymore. Please stop texting me now, I would appreciate it. Hope you find the girl you're looking for, it just isn't me, sorry. Best wishes."
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Simply let him know that you are not intrested anymore and that you have moved on. If you would like to keep him as a friend, let him know. If not, tell him you have a boyfriend. He should get the message.
Good Luck.
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Be honest. Whatever you do, dont just ignore him, because it could upset him as he wont know where he stands with you. i know this from experience as me and this guy used to text each other a lot a few years ago, and we only went on a couple of dates, but the all of a sudden, i'm not sure why, he just suddenly stopped texting as much until it was not at all. i kept texting hima s i was upset and wanted to know where i stood. eventually he text me to say that he had been busy and that he didnt think things were going to work out between us. it was really hurtful to hear that, as i thought we had got on well, and i wanted to continue seeing him. i think its more hurtful not knowing where you stand though than it is to know the truth.if you dont know where you stand, you cant move on, whereas if you tell someone the truth, as least they can try to move on with their lives. also, i would recommend not telling him on the phone, if you can help it. it seems cowardly. i know it might feel awkward if you tell him in person, but it is the decent thing to do.
the guy i liked said " i don't really think it will work out with us, sorry ". so maybe you could just say something like that. he will probably want to know the reason why ( i did, i got pretty paranoid as i dont have much self confidence, and its the only time i have ever been dumped ) but its up to you whetehr you want to tell him the reasons why or not. if you do, be honest about what the reasons are, but try to put it in a polite way. the guy i liked said it was just because he was busy with work a lot, and didnt think it was fair on me, but somehow, i dont buy that. that was almost three years ago now, and he has a one month old daughter with someone else. i know this because we are on each others friends lists on facebook, but we havent spoken at all since he dumped me. i'm not really sure why he accepted my friend request on facebook, especially as he hasnt spoken to me ( i added him last year, so it was quite a long time after he dumped me ) , but i guess he didnt think i was all that bad, since he added me and apologised for saying it wouldnt work out.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (21 May 2010):
 you could just tell him youre no longer interested. its pretty blunt but its how you really feel and he'll go away.
I had a guy that texted me alot - I thought I liked but it wasnt working out & I wanted to end it ..so I told him that I didnt think we meshed well..or that we werent right for each other. he stopped txting.
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