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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello,Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2.5 years. Last summer he broke up with me, we spent 5 weeks with no contact and then decided to meet up again. We chatted for hours and eventually kissed. We talked over all the issues we had (him acting like the victim during fights, me being very clingy) and decided to give it another shot.Past the background story and more onto the 'problem': I feel jealous of him. A lot.In my eyes, he has more friends, a nicer family, more control over his life, he does nicer things in his spare time etc etc etc. I often feel jealous of his friends as well, when he spends time with them in stead of with me (my friends usually don't want to meet up after school). Lately, he and his friends have been planning this trip to Italy in the summer for a couple of weeks. I wanted to go to Scotland with a close friend, but she can't afford it. Long story short; he is going, I'm not, we're not going together anywhere any time soon and next summer, we're both going to another college in another part of the country. I don't believe we'll manage, he does. Apart from these issues, we're fine. How do I move past this jealousy? I want to be happy for him but can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): You need to get your own life. Not in a mean way or anything.
But you are playing the victim when your life and your friendships are in your hands. He could have the best everything in the world but you wouldn't be jealous if you were happy with your lot.
So learn to be happy. Be interesting and have your own fun.
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